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Having a moment where I'm suddenly aware that there's going to be a day where my cat passes, and it will be sooner rather than later as she's getting old, and there's nothing I can do to protect her.
She's been a constant companion for a very long time, and I'm not ready for that day.
How the fuck do youse deal with these kinds of feelings? First time in a long time that the waterworks kicked off and my anxiety is doing shit I really am not okay with
I cry.
Same mate, same.
I dwell on this a lot and don’t know how to manage when it happens. I just try to focus on spoiling her and making life as good as it can be until then.
You can somewhat protect her by looking after her health, managing non-malignant pain and if it comes to that, by ensuring a merciful humane passing.
I can’t stop death but she’ll be safe.
I do the same. Bought her a cooling mat this morning so she can just ride summer out, not to mention feeding her the best food I can afford. I just wish I could deal with these feelings, because they're horrifying. I'm looking at her right now and she's chilling and happy, but I know one day she won't be.
Edit: you're right mate. I know that's all I can do, but it doesn't stop the feeling. I'll just aim to do all I can for her now, in any case
knowing that you have been the best friend you can be makes it easier to live with
I agree, although the anxiety doesn't. I'm always feeling like there's more I can be doing. And whilst it is true, I need to learn to actually deal with that feeling without hating myself
Sorry, I edited. I honestly don’t know how to deal with it beyond that :(
All good, I edited as well, and I appreciate it
Acknowledge the feelings are OK, they are normal. Of course it’s sad and stressful to know our loved pets are getting closer to their time. And when it happens it’s so bloody hard. It’s the price of loving our pets. Give her her best life, and enjoy the present.
I will mate, thank you