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How do you relax/rest? (reddthat.com)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I understand that I have to relax every now and then, however I am really struggling with it, being constantly in an endless loop of:

Having a lot of energy and doing a bunch of stuff for a couple of weeks.
Getting exhausted to the point I cannot control my impulsions and wreck my daily routine
Try to rest only to fall in a depressive state for a couple of weeks.
Collect myself up and repeat from step 1.

Trying to do low effort activities like watching a series or playing video games, is addictive, I stay up late without being able to stop, and end up more tired.

The hobbies I like require focus, and that's what I am trying to avoid. Examples include programming and chess.

Going out with friends is nice but drains my social energy, after a couple of weekends out I need to stay in.

Chores sometimes work, but other times I feel guilty about the state of cleanliness of my home.

So, how do you relax/rest? Got a magic recipe? Are you struggling like me?

Edit: I just want to say this community is awesome, thanks for the support.

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (3 children)

Digital hoarding - I just like to collect stuff I'll never consume, including books, games, music, TV shows, movies, audiobooks, etc. I find it soothing to compile collections and a thrill to find rare and/or previously thought lost stuff.
Filling in the lines with color - Coloring books, paint by numbers, Lake app. I get to turn off my brain and focus on the lines. I don't care about the colors that much, which leads to some pretty funky results.
Power Wash Simulator - same as above but in reverse. I just turn off my brain and clean.
Practicing guitar scales - Again; brain off, muscle memory on. The pain helps too. My mind wanders less when my fingers hurt. Plus it feels good when I check out and somehow still hit every note. It's like my brain and I are just passengers looking out the window of the car while muscle memory takes us on a road trip on a sunny fall afternoon.

EDIT: I should note that I suffer from chronic, severe insomnia. I'll go to sleep and two hours later be awake again. My solutions are for relaxation, not sleep.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Hardspace Shipbreaker is GREAT as a chillout game, especially if you play in easy/non-time-limited mode. I’ve spent HOURS slicing and dicing starships into their constituent components :D

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

That is a fucking great game. I should fire it up again.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

The only thing you get for reaching 100% salvaged is a steam badge… but it’s one that I’m actually kind of proud of, because it’s REALLY hard to do on the larger ships. One slightly misaligned cut and you’ve tossed a couple of work :P

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Not that I tend to go for stream badges generally, but does it have to be done on a certain class or size of ship? Can you 100% a tiny ship?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Yep. It’s still pretty hard, even on the smallest ship classes. You will absolutely not get it on your first try.

I first got 100% on a small cargo-type ship first, and then one of the medium-sized science ship classes, but there are a lot of bigger ones that I haven’t done. Also there’s a medium-sized patrol/tug class that I’m not sure is actually possible to 100%, because the only way to get the engine cores out is to slice active fuel lines, RCS/tether-pull at high speed through a huge engine nacelle while the fuel lines are flaming around you, and pull a switch all the way at the front of the damn thing within 15 or so seconds, otherwise the fucker blows itself apart and kills you lol

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Insomnia sucks, I think I have a longer circadian rhythm (many people with ADHD do) which sucks when you try to maintain a routine. But, having severe insomnia, I cannot imagine what you are going through...

I liked the colour book idea, I will give it a try, I always thought these are for children but fuck standards, maybe it works for me too. 🙏

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 months ago

The Lake app is marketed towards adults and there are a lot of coloring books for adults.