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Both parties should contribute equally.
That being said it's a grey area. When I was out of a job and my bf worked 12 hour shifts, and came home exhausted and defeated, I didn't mind doing all the work in the house. He did the same thing when I was working and he lost his job. Etc.
It's more like "I can do this if you don't have the time/energy" and less like "I am required to do this because he is required to handle finances" though. Every relationship is different so this would be better answered in relationship_advice, with context and background explained
That's kind of what I meant. Didn't articulate it well enough. I see it as like a "hey, because my partner is doing this for me, I WANT to do this for them." Reciprocation of effort. Not necessarily just finances. I've been in situations where I felt like I was putting in more effort and it wasn't being reciprocated. So I was wondering if it was fair to expect equal reciprocation in a relationship where both people are able to contribute the same things
I think that's fair. Next step is to have a conversation about it, without going into the blame game. It is possible that your partner has a wildly different story and point of view.