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I have so many friends who would 100% be labeled as an incel if they were men. They hold men to impossibly high standards while meeting none of those standards themselves.

For example, women living with parents while expecting men to have their own place, women who are obese but are only interested in fit men, working part time while expecting a man who has a career, refusing to drive and expecting men to chauffeur them around, expecting men to have a variety of friends and interests while doing nothing but watching TV all day, etc.

The worst part is, calling out this inequality will 100% get any man labeled as an incel. We're expected to either deal with it or be alone forever.

This is NOT to undermine the very real issues women have to deal with, for example the loss of bodily autonomy in the US. But this is still an issue worth discussing and nobody is talking about it.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I've seen actual femcel communities on Reddit and they certainly don't keep quietly to themselves. But whether there are more of them or if they are equally violent.. No idea. Don't really want to compare or know more to be honest.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 10 months ago

They are not as violent, no. The raw numbers speak for themselves; the overwhelming majority of murders are committed by men. The overwhelming majority of men that are sexually assaulted are sexually assaulted by men. There are certainly women that complain about men, and say that 'all men want it', and such. But the raw numbers of women that commit murders or sexually assault men, are very low.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 10 months ago

Okay, but there's 'not keeping quietly to thenselves' and then there's the litany of literal crimes that male incels are known for.