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Based on the people I know who are like this (both male, female, heterosexual and homosexual). They don't get out much and don't meet new people. Another big reason is having high expectations of others and not being able to compromise while at the same time having a lot of insecurities.
If you are reading this and cannot get a date:
Absolutely not, but you should meet people. Build confidence and social skills.
In what way would it make someone feel uncomfortable if you were to try and socialise with them (in a platonic way)?
I don't think you should shy away from dating in political activism, but there are many obstacles and things to be aware of and shit, and yeah, don't close yourself off but don't treat it as a dating scene.
Lenin met his wife while organizing. And goodness forbid that people ever feel uncomfortable. Uncomfortable is part of life, though its different when people's safety could be at risk.
sure, when people are in a relationship the main issue is just other people's discomfort, but i have found that the real problems lie in the breakup that happens. i have seen entire organizations crumble over a single nasty breakup because of the ensuing polarization that happens when that drama gets in the way of all the professionalism and organizing. for that reason, i've always found it bad practice and a little selfish to date within orgs.
That type of experience definitely sucks, I'm sorry that's happened.