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God, this thread is a breath of fresh air. Every time the topic came up on reddit, you had the same core of bitter whiny losers reciting the same archetype of the rejected and resentful guy stuck at home while his GF was out 'cheating' on him, and insisting that this was the reality in every single case.
I'm mono myself, but it's nice to read various experiences here of poly relationships.
I personally think i'm too selfish to survive in a poly environment though, and also I'm not really that interesting of a person in general - preferring time alone mostly.
Poly requires a ton of trust and communication, so for me it would fall down quickly with the wrong kind of partner(s)... especially as it takes me a while to trust others
I actually consider myself a selfish person. But I experience huge amounts of compersion. It makes me so happy when good things happen to the people I care about. It's selfish of me to want more than one partner and to revel in my wife's other relationship. But I'll be damned if senseless or traditional moralizing is going to stop me from being or making people happy.
Omg yes. This is the primary discussion of polyamory, and it drives me crazy. None of that common description looks like my life.