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[–] [email protected] 14 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Depressed. I could have had so much sex, with people who cared for me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Story time, friend?

Please?

Or at least give us one example. One measly crumb?

[–] [email protected] 14 points 10 months ago (3 children)

Nah, nothing abusive, just totally oblivious to others trying to make a move. I need big neon signs.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago

That's because human beings in western society are wierdly messed up over sex.

Though in my case I figured out the consistent common beats of flirting / courting in my late twenties and realized when I was sixteen my aunt was totally hitting on me.

So a combination of societal sexual hang ups, neurodivergence and family social dysfunctiob kept me celibate until 26.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

Same, I can never tell if it's for real or she's mocking until months later.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I've tried to err on the side of caution on that myself, because it's pretty embarrassing to act like someone is trying to hit on you when they're not, on either side. I've had people act like they think I'm flirting with them when I'm not also which is awkward.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago

Stuck in an abusive relationship and didnt take the opportunity to get out probably?