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[–] [email protected] 34 points 9 months ago (2 children)

People will always draw the line for acceptable behavior just past where they find themselves.

With that in mind we can surmise that the person that wrote this was very likely guilty of war rape, but he thought highly of himself for letting the woman grieve first. Very likely the people he was writing this for were also commonly guilty of war rape and thought little of it.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 9 months ago

That time and that culture, women didn't give consent. Their fathers or husbands did. If she had no father or husband, then there was no one to deny a man that lusted for her. Some parts of the world still operate on this barbaric thinking.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Not just grieving, but making her his wife, which also means taking care of her.

It's still rape by todays standards and I won't be defending it. But making someone your wife was a lot better than raping a woman and then leaving her, unweddable, in a time where a woman couldn't earn their own income

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

Even up until recently, marriage has still been seen as economically motivated. It's especially the case in many developing countries. Where I'm from originally, some people still say "being practical" in terms of marrying someone. Of course you want to marry someone not just out of love but also who could provide economically. Though in many cases, the notion of "being practical" is looking for someone to be sugar daddy or sugar mommy.