this post was submitted on 11 Mar 2024
33 points (100.0% liked)
chat
8124 readers
260 users here now
Chat is a text only community for casual conversation, please keep shitposting to the absolute minimum. This is intended to be a separate space from c/chapotraphouse or the daily megathread. Chat does this by being a long-form community where topics will remain from day to day unlike the megathread, and it is distinct from c/chapotraphouse in that we ask you to engage in this community in a genuine way. Please keep shitposting, bits, and irony to a minimum.
As with all communities posts need to abide by the code of conduct, additionally moderators will remove any posts or comments deemed to be inappropriate.
Thank you and happy chatting!
founded 3 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
Yeah. I get this train of thought. I’ve been with my wife for 12 years. She is my soul mate and I’ll never ever let her go. However, I felt like I lost a lot of chances to date in my life because she was practically my first real relationship. For us, poly was the correct answer though as she had no qualms being just an instrument in the band. And now I’m with my wife and my fiance of two years and it’s been one hell of a ride I wouldn’t give up for anything.
That being said, when it boils down to it, considering that your boyfriend seems very clearly against it on grounds that are based in ignorance, perhaps you can educate a little to see if he will be more amicable towards what polyamory is actually about. However, if he’s too hostile towards the idea, then you’re going to have to play by his rules so to speak. When it comes to relationships, it is indeed a work of art between two people. Both need to be working in tandem for it to be a masterpiece.