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I was raised right wing, grew up redneck in a small down, dirt roads, everything. But I listen to people.
Last weekend on Saturday, my wife kicked me out (it's a long story). It was raining and I was alone in my car sad, and trying to find a couch to sleep on. I was messaging everybody I knew. The only person to reply was my female friend, who is lesbian. She had me reach out to her friend who is trans. I called him and he let me know he's out of town, but his boyfriend might be able to help.
I called a complete stranger, and explained what had happened. He gave me the address and said he'll have a bed ready. I showed up and he's also trans as well. He took me in, made me dinner, and we stayed up until 3am talking about everything. He gave me so much advice to try to get through the abuse I've been going through, he even took my phone away because I was about to text her.
The next day, I was able to get a hold of my parents so I can stay at their house. When I got there, they immediately started in on "Joe Biden is taking away Easter for the trans people!!" and I absolutely lit them up.
It didn't matter that the people that helped me were trans, they are people like everybody else. They didn't care about having a giant cis male in their home, they saw me as a person.
I don't know where I'm going with this, I'm just frustrated and scared
Thank you, i hope your experience can radiate to others so they won't vote for hate. I also hope you find yourself on the other side of your abuse and living your best life. While i'm a trans woman i remember being a boy and my GF abusing me and not having support to get out of it.
It's really scary and lonely feeling. I'm worried she's going to take me for all I got and take the kids. Luckily my friends and family know she's been doing this for years, so they're on my side.
She verbally abused my oldest while I was kicked out telling him "you're just like your f-ing dad" because they were listening to music together, and she didn't like the song he was playing. He told me with tears in his eyes
My man. Get evidence of this kind of abuse if you can. Texts, videos, recordings of your kids. Statements from your family if they ever witnessed. She might be able to take your belongings, depending on where you live, but an abundance of evidence about her abuse could go a long way in insuring that she doesn't take your kids.
Talk to a lawyer ASAP if you think that's on the cards.
And lastly... I was the oldest kid in your situation some 20 years ago. My dad got custody of us but my mother took everything else. We lived in his truck for a short time.
I can tell you. It's gonna hurt if it gets ugly. But it does get better. We were all better off without my mother.
I'm rooting for you, my guy. Know who your friends are and don't be afraid to ask for help.