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Me personally? I've become much less tolerant of sexist humor. Back in the day, cracking a joke at women's expense was pretty common when I was a teen. As I've matured and become aware to the horrific extent of toxicity and bigotry pervading all tiers of our individualistic society, I've come to see how exclusionarly and objectifying that sort of 'humor' really is, and I regret it deeply.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I am aware that it has synonyms, but it's not just a substitute for idiot. It meant a specific thing

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (3 children)

It means someone has a developmental disability. But that is not how people used it. They used it to call someone an idiot, 100%. If someone did something dumb, they would retort "retard". How is that not exactly how it was/is used? Call them a bafoon, hammerhead, numskull, nincompoop, a schnook, make up a word for all I care. But to use a word that describes someone with a developmental disability should not be used as an insult. Don't complain about there not being a substitute when there's hundreds of options. You just seem to want to use it.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

A person you insulted in that was being an idiot, but you used a different, harsher word for specific effect.

That's what isn't replaced. An S-tier idiot, described in one word.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

It's probably specific to my social circles, but in the late '00s some of my family and acquaintances started using certain vegetable and food names as synonyms for stupid person. E.g. "you carrot", "you cake". I guess this was a less openly offensive way of disparaging someone's intelligence.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I like this a lot. We should spread this around.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Is this a localised to the US thing? Here in Aus I've never heard removed being used as either an insult or linked to someone with a developmental disability. What context is it used in for a developmental disability?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Did you mean to say "removed"? We're talking about the word "retard"

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Interesting. Lemmy.ml has a filter that replaces slurs with removed, so I guess that's what @[email protected] saw

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This illustrates really well why word filters are a terrible idea; they have no regard for the conversational context.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

It also illustrates what a bunch of pussies they are lol, can't handle a few mean words

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Oooooooooooh shit that makes sense now hahahahahaha.

I didn't even know there was a word filter!

I'm sitting here all confused thinking "Removed" was the actual word not what is being displayed here

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm Australian, it used to be very common. You might be too young?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Haha nah

There's a word filter so I was only seeing "Removed" in place of the actual word. Confused the shit out of me. Now it all makes sense