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Hey Riikka. I'm really sorry you're having to deal with this shit. Just hang in there and try to keep a level head (it's really really hard, I know).

Please keep us updated. We are ALL rooting for you. Once you get to safety you can try and crowdfund some money to cover basic costs.

Trevorproject has 24/7 free crisis counseling for LGBTQ people. I highly recommend you explain your situation to a counselor on the helpline and see if they can get you to some resources.

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

This is a comprehensive list of the plans you need to make and things you need to pack when getting out of an abusive situation:

https://www.drphil.com/advice/an-exit-action-plan-guidelines-for-leaving-an-abusive-relationship

My DMs are open if you ever need to talk. Stay strong. I believe in you 💜

If the cops aren't throwing you out immediately then you've got at least a couple of days to work on your exit strategy.

Make sure you've got all your documentation that you can get your hands on. Replacing a social security card or birth certificate is an expense to be avoided if possible.

Start packing, even if you don't have a solid destination in mind yet. Get everything you need together so you can grab it and go when the necessity and opportunity present themselves.

Reach out. You're already doing great by asking for help here but you're going to need a support network wherever you end up. If you have any friends you can rely on, see if they can loan you some crash space for a while. Try contacting local or statewide orgs as they often have resources to assist folks escaping abusive family situations.

Also, please keep in touch. Too many folks that get kicked out by their families end up homeless and none of us want to see that happening to you. If you get cut off then find a library for some free online time and let us know. We'll do the best we can.

I’m not a lawyer. That said, Ohio has eviction laws that offer you some protection even if you’re not on a lease/deed. Expelling you without notice is illegal, and from what I can find Ohio requires at least 3 days notice even if you were breaking the lease, and 30 days the rest of the time.

Stay calm when interacting with the officer. Let them know that you hadn’t been given notice to leave before today, you have nowhere to go, and that your parents are threatening you. You can also request to talk to a social worker. It may be in your best interest to leave to a shelter to stay safe from your parents, but sometimes shelters aren’t the best either.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, just do what you can to get through it.

I'm sorry this is happening to you, Riikka. I hope you are able to find a way to live independantly, away from hurtful people. If you don't mind sharing, what lead up to this?

There are already super supportive people around here so I'm just gonna throw my bit in here, too.

If your BioParents aren't too tech savy it's actually pretty easy to bypass wifi restrictions whithout them noticing, if they restrict your IP adresses, you can just change your IP manually and bypass that. If they change the password, you can figure that out too. It's not much but as long as you can get physical acces to your router, you can ALWAYS find a way to get internet, physical access is root access, and there are lovely people in the internet that can show you how in your specific case.

Most definitvely not speaking from personal experience /s And if you need help with that, just contact me, I'll gladly help you, with everything actually

Heyya Riikka, I wish I had some help to give but you have my support. I am so sorry you're going through this and now need safety and resources.

I'm not sure if these are any help but here is a list of resources specific to Oklahoma. When things have settled and you have a bit of breathing room, I suggest looking into moving to a blue state. Specifically with good trans protection laws.

https://pflagoklahomacity.org/resources

It's awful you have to deal with this; if you're able to find a way out it's worth looking into different states. Potential homelessness is likely to look a lot worse in some states vs others, particularly for trans folks

https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/may-anti-trans-legislative-risk-map

Most important is getting your hands on the most important documents, namely social security card and birth certificate, and any other forms of ID.

Next up is setting yourself up a "bug out bag" in case you need to get the F out immediately.

I did some research.

You mentioned that you live in northeastern Oklahoma, so I'm assuming you're in a somewhat reasonable distance from Tulsa. It is possible that you could get an Uber to go from Tulsa to where you are rurally (for a pretty penny, of course). If I were you, I'd play around with the app and see if you can get anything. If not, try another service such as Lyft or a local taxi service based out of Tulsa. Here's a list of some: https://m.yelp.com/search?cflt=taxis&find_loc=Tulsa%2C+OK You can try calling the local ones and explain that you need a ride to Tulsa from where you are and that you are happy to pay or whatever.

Once you get to Tulsa, there is a Greyhound bus station there. The address is 317 S Detroit Ave, Tulsa, OK 74120. You can get pretty much anywhere you need to go once you get to the station. Make sure to buy your ticket in advance. They have routes to pretty much every major US city. You will need to dress conservatively so as to not be visibly trans. I know that it's painful but when travelling on things like Greyhound it's safety first. From what I've heard, Greyhound can be pretty janky and have some weird people, but it will get you to where you need to go since you don't have a car. Just keep a watchful eye on all of your belongings and surroundings.

Make sure other people know about your whereabouts as you travel in case anything were to happen. It can be an online friend, this community, or anything else. Have a plan with them about what to do if anything goes wrong. It is always best to be prepared, even though the chance of anything nefarious happening is very low.

When you get to the state that you're going to, look into the government programs. Blue states are a lot more generous with them than most red. You can qualify for disability because you have autism, so look into that. You might also be able to get things like unemployment, food stamps, and other government assistance while you're trying to figure things out.

Also, please try to eat. It's very important to keep your strength up in situations like these and not eating will make you weaker and your brain foggier. Even if you're not hungry, just try to get something down.

I hope this helps. I'm really really praying that you get out of the situation you're in safely and get to a better place. I promise you, you can have a much better life than the one you've been living. There are places where you can be yourself freely. There are people who will accept you for who you are. It's not going to be easy, but I can promise you that it's going to be worth it.

Hey Keris!

Sounds like things are real rough right now.

I highly recommend that you make another post about your current situation. It's very possible that there are people on here and elsewhere who are willing to help you out irl who live in the states that you're looking at moving to (I know I would if I did, but unfortunately I live in a deep red state too). That would help with building a support network. Also, you are more than welcome to make a GoFundMe or something similar and post it on here to raise funds to help you escape and get back on your feet. We are all rooting for you and want to help!

Hang in there. Take things one step at a time and soon you'll be free. There is a way out of all of this. You're at rock bottom right now, and that means that there's no place you can go but up. You can do this.