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"A hole is a hole"

This seems to be the attitude of most I encounter nowadays. I think every friend I have who I've asked about their sexuality tend to reply "I dunno, I just like what I like."
It seems the labels are slowly starting to lose their use, which to me is a good thing. It means we're getting to the point where we don't need it to feel normal anymore because it's just normal by default. We're not quite there yet, but it shows we're moving in the right direction.
Not that people can't use labels if it makes them more comfortable, I'm just glad more people are starting not to need them because they're already accepted.

this is the way uwu~

I agree, and that's for the best, fuck oppressive gender stereotypes.

I like your optimism but we will always be a minority that will be thrown under the bus when the economy goes bad.

Sound alike the gymnastics to define racial categories to preserve a social hierarchy as well. What is white? Well it's people from here and here, not Irish, not Jewish, etc. Oh wait, Irish are allowed now but not Okies. Okay, they're allowed now but no Jews! Now, Jewish can be allowed sometimes but no Italians. Alright, Italians, but no Jews, Irish are also okay, some Hispanic people if they can pass, certain Asians can be let in, etc. Etc. It always go on like that. It stays malleable just to make it exclusive.

Men is what my ooga booga caveman brain defines as not female and not unkown. Non-binary folk are unkown to caveman brain for example. Trans women are women and same with trans men. Femboys are close enough to female that ooga booga caveman brain wants to put dick in some.

Reject modern prescriptivism, embrace caveman brain descriptivism!

I figured out that I'm attracted to femeninity. What's between the legs doesn't really matter to me. My girlfriend told me that it makes me part of the community and not just an ally like I've always called myself.

Nonbinary identities kinda break the idea of straight or gay since straightness or gayness are depended on the gender of the person, so when that gender is outside of the binary it doesn't work right.

This was a popular mindset when I was a teen. We always said "labels are for soup cans" when it comes to sexuality.

If it's pretty, fuck it. There is no gay.

I kinda agree, but also want to offer a different perspective. I agree that the more specific labels are not efficient for communication in most cases, because nobody knows all of them and it's easier to just say who you find attractive.

However, they can still be useful to discover more about yourself. As someone who's aromantic and asexual I've found that many of the labels in the community caused me to ask myself the question "how do I feel about this". Before finding "my" labels I just kinda felt like "nope" about anything related to relationships, but all the more specific labels and spectra have made it much more clear to me what I want and what I don't want. They also provide a way for people to find others with the same experiences as them, which can feel incredibly validating.

These specific labels are a jargon for queer people, they make sense in their context, but are not useful when trying to communicate with most people from outside of the community.

I agree.

It should be more about who you like, not what people call them/you/your labels/their labels.

I always feel like the labels are there to make the "heteronormative" types feel more comfortable, which isn't really working for them either so.....

I dunno, I'm just a person who likes people who meet criteria that makes my brain release the happy chemicals.

I'm wildly attracted to both of those people and just call it Bisexuality. Classifying attraction is kinda dumb anyway, as there's no point in setting up heuristics that will have that many edge cases and exceptions.

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I'm bi with obvious bias towards femme presenting people, and some scummier gay men (those that forgot 2000's homophobia and now are transphobes on the same tropes) did harass me for being a "spicy heterosexual into getting pegged".

That's it, absolutely. It's bigotry in language form. The only people who care about what qualifies as "straight" are those who shun those different from themselves.

I think part of the issue with these terms losing meaning is because we stopped using them as intended. Straight Gay and Bi were just the entry points in delivering vital info about what sexual organs you had and which ones you were engaging in sex acts with. Under old school definitions that would list me as Straight because I have a penis, and am only interested in engaging in sex with a vagina. Now, because it does not matter to me whether the person who has a vag is a man or woman, under the newer definitions I am bi. So the system made sense for the original system we set it up in, but its breaking down in our more modern way of thinking

edit: Side note, I especially like how this effectively makes me Shroedingers Gay, as I am either Straight or Bi depending on whos looking

I think they're implying that they had sex but that he's still contemplating it. There's a bunch of condoms hanging off the nightstand lol

But me likey neat little boxes uwu