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[–] [email protected] 72 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not being kind to people in the service industry.

[–] [email protected] 68 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's a big one. Also lack of hobbies or passions.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

This is exactly what tanked a potential relationship for me a few years ago.

[–] [email protected] 61 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Maybe you don't like the wording, but everyone does this. Unless you know if someone will be a close friend the moment you lay eyes on them, or are friends with literally everyone you've spent time with.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yes everyone does it naturally and mostly subconsciously over time as they get to know people. You've got to be a real psycho to be running through a checklist you've crowd sourced online. Wtf is this thread. Ugh reddit refugees lmao.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

I personally doubt OP is going to actually use the answers like that.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

For real this seems like a major red flag.

[–] [email protected] 55 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Do people really do that? I just kind of meet people and whatever happens happens.

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[–] [email protected] 43 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 42 points 1 year ago (2 children)
  • Belief in nonsense, such as astrology
  • Celebrity worship
  • Excessive social media usage, especially Twitter
[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago

you're on lemmy

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What about excessive lemmy usage?

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That would be really weird. There’s not enough content for excessive Lemmy usage.

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 1 year ago
  • Serious belief in pseudosciences
  • Conspiracy theorist
  • Right-wing ideology
  • Sex prude
[–] [email protected] 37 points 1 year ago (2 children)

If they are cheap/stingy but when someone else is paying they get the more expensive things. If someone is consistently frugal in all situations I don't mind.

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 year ago

Someone who identifies very closely with hustle & grind culture. Someone who claims a personal brand. Someone who kisses up and kicks down.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Who are these people who have so many choices in friends that they can afford to vet them?

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago

Its not so much having friends to vet them.

its meeting new people that seem, for all intents and purposes, cool and mellow people.

Then you make the mistake of sending them an off-platform friend request and are quickly brought to realization that the only thing keeping them cool and mellow was the platforms rules and reporting.

I got duped like that once in a game, Kept running into eachother and playing together, so sent them an out of game friend request.. Immediately received a massive tirade about what they really thought about trans people, and gays, and other various topics. 100% unprompted, and out of the blue 0-100 in .00237 second.

The only reason I didnt immediately block them was because I was too stupified and took me a solid minute to gather myself. Ended up having to block them in game, too.. Which I think resulted in them being banned, since they sent me a huge message in game about i must be one of those liberal trans homosexuals since i blocked him after his "truth" or whatever bullshit. Reported his ass, and never saw him again.

Crazy is super good at concealing itself, until it thinks you are a compatriot.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Inability to follow instructions. Lack of problem solving skills. No common sense.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago

Anyone who dislikes animals.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Doesn’t speak a language I know.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Refusing to participate in a civil discussion, but instead resorting to ad hominem (attacking the person not the argument) or refusing to consider the other sides argument. If they do this any minor dispute will escalate to a flame war.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You probably got machine-corrected, that's ad hominem. But yes, not being able to handle an argument healthily is a big handicap in life

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

If they treat service workers poorly, that's already a red flag for me. Even if the service is disappointing somehow, being an asshole to them is still a red flag to me.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Unimpactful trait? I'd say if they put the toilet paper the wrong way, if you have to ask which way is the right way we can't be friends. Also if they don't return the shopping cart, instant way for me to lose respect for you.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Oddly enough your rigity on this is why we could not be friends.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)

How they treat people who disagree with them politically. If they immediately hate/cut off people for political disagreements, we're not going to be friends any deeper than surface level.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

What if they hate/cut off fascists though?

I know a lot of people who are close friends with BJP fans and I always thought that was fucking weird

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Depends on the disagreement... if the topic under discussion is as inflammatory as abortion or trans rights, I'm sure you can understand why some folks can't agree to disagree.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Same for any pop media. Some is fine, but if they think every current trending show or movies is "the best" than I know they don't have a system of standard.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Almost forgot this place is filled with redditors

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