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Do you have the same feeling? (feddit.dk)
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I have a deep urge to be independent, but I think my mind has taken it too far. I want to be able to make everything myself, I want to do all from machining, to electronics and plumbing to bricklaying to programming.

I feel like men reach more for this independence or am I crazy?

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago

Go for it. Just don't try do everything at once and burn out.

Treat it as a hobby. Spend money on tools you may only need for a single project. Experiment. Take your time. Watch youtube videos of other makers to scratch your itch, when you can't (or don't want to) actually do it yourself. Appricate the beauty of enginerring around you. Enjoy the process.

Just start. Either you gain a new fulfilling new hobby, or you satisify your urge enough, and stop being crazy.

Some recommendations to get you started:

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

Good in you. Watch primitive technology on YouTube.

It's a nice thought but ultimately unrealistic for most people.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

Nah I'm like this too. Take it one thing at a time. I also recommend the Adam Savage method of buying tools: Buy the cheapest tool you can and if you use it until it breaks, only then do you buy a quality tool since you clearly use it a lot.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I hate paying others for what I could do myself. But I also realize my time is important and has its own value. It might be worth it to have someone else take a look at a task for me. Generalizing is nice, but specializing has its advantages.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

I like knowing how to do something. That way I have a choice to do it myself or pay someone else to do it. If you don't know how to do things yourself, you don't have that choice.

Skills are freedom.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

No. But enjoy yourself. I have friends who are into DIY and they seem to do a good job. I'm sure you can too.

I tried a little home repair, and it turns out I'm not good at it. I spent a bunch of time trying to fix the previous homeowners fuckups before I noticed my fixes weren't that good.

If I ever get a shed where the quality of work doesn't matter, maybe I'll give it another shot.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Check out Ask This Old House. Home improvement show that is on YouTube in snips showing how to do stuff from a home owners pov.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

I joined a makerspace earlier this year. Lots of people had command of lots of skills.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

I’ve come to the conclusion I can barely afford two hobbies; let alone all of the hobbies.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

I too like being self reliant, it helps me with my confidence a lot.

And it saves so much money lol

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

I do. My parents did a ton of building our house themselves, and my dad also fixed the car all the time including removing and repairing the engine. So I think I get the tendency from seeing that behavior modeled.

Issue is I don't have the same drive, and realistically I think it's not entirely healthy because there's not enough time in the day. It can cause issues when something needs to get done but you won't pay for it or allow someone else to do it.