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I Think I'm Going To Look For A Therapist (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 weeks ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm going to find a professional out there in my area who can listen to all my concerns about stuff like diagnosing/dealing with AuDHD, talking about dealing with family stuff, and just my general desire to be a better person/communicate better. I don't think I can just indefinitely keep my problems inside the way I've been doing.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I would recommend a therapist! Although keep in mind that the first therapist you meet might not be the best fit for you (I went through several until I found someone I had productive sessions with). It takes time and energy but the long term benefits are definitely worth it

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago

my version of this was that my therapist was actually p. decent but i had to take a break because i stopped doing the work and then after like a year of not benefiting from therapy at all i better understood what i needed immediate help with and then was more motivated to do the work the second time

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

I know. It's kinda been discouraging to think about but, I have to start somewhere. The one I had in college listened but, then couldn't really offer the best feedback.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

My partner pushed me to go after being in denial and it definitely was worth it! I currently have found good queer-friendly or at least leftie ish therapists on https://complicated.life also good filtering, idk any other sites

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Psychology Today is another good jumping off point if you use their filters to get rid of people doing "Christian therapy" and whatever. Sometimes info is vague but its enough to be able to then look at individual websites for more detail. And I always see handfuls of people who specialize in working with LGBTQ people and other specific backgrounds or diagnoses.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Don’t be too humble. Many of them need more help than that patient. So many going to therapy themselves and think “hey I can do that too”.

Idk about anybody else but CBT amounts to some sneering fuck saying “just stop thinking that” for a couple of days wages.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

“just stop thinking that”

I hate it when people do that. I could get that kind of service for free at home.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

It’s bad when the toxic family and friends give better contextual advice.

Don’t want to scare you off getting help. A lot of Dr Phil’s to sieve your way through.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Yeah, I know. But at least there's no yelling from said family giving advice. 😔