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Just a thought I had, like what can a ten year old do(besides mass murder & accidents) that messes up their life so badly that it is unrecoverable?

It has to be something that is self inflicted and not something that is the cause of others around them.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 12 minutes ago

Being conceived by shitty people is more than enough to have a life arguably ruined permanently before it even began.

So much can happen to ruin a person's life at any stage, even pre-conception.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 20 minutes ago

A ten year old can rush out into the road and become paralyzed for life.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 hour ago

I remember as a kid, I met these other kids that would drink from the side of the street. That sewer water was full of nasty including gas and oil runoff from the roads and who knows what else.

I also had an ex that would drink the chemicals under the sink as a tiny kid.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 hours ago

Be born a woman in Afghanistan... come out the womb to "And that's when she knew she had fucked up."

I'm not certain if this is in the spirit of your question but even a murderer in the US has privileges denied to a lot of other people.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 hours ago

Depends on what color you were born and what side of the world you were born on. Michael Render put it best, in the west? "Even if you make seven figures, you still..."

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

Whatever the country's age of criminal conviction (typically 18). It's hard enough to get a job WITHOUT a criminal record.

Depending on the country and/or crime, a juvenile record will also prevent being able to work in certain jobs/industries.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

Any significant injury that results in paralysis would be a potential candidate. These become possible as soon as you become old enough to climb things like trees.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

A kid in my class put his arm inside a... I don't remember if it was a lion or tiger cage back on the 70s before safety was a thing. Being armless isn't the end, but I bet he regretted that decision.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 18 minutes ago

There went all his hopes for an army career. No more pitching for the Mets. No more professional arm wrestling. No more rowing competitions, or stirring huge pots of gruel.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Diving head first into shallow water comes to mind

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

Also: eating random slug you find on the street.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 hours ago

Nah. You could still be nominated for director of HHS.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 hours ago

yeah. rat lungworm.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

If, when you're born, you don't choose to be rich, that messes you up forever.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I was watching a Netflix documtary about killers, the guy said he was on drugs by age 9...so pretty sure that messed up his life before the murder. It is debatable on if surroundings or self choices are why you try drugs I guess.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

It takes a certain kind of environment to enable that.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Agreed. Also Nancy Reagan told me not to, and I was not in a position to argue.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 hours ago

Well, if Nancy said so, it must be true.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Playing with fireworks, firearms, or chemicals can be a solid way for anyone of any age to ruin their life.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

But doesn’t that count as an accident? Kids who play with fireworks don’t cram a steel can full of black powder imagining how cool it would be to loose your fingers and eyes.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 17 minutes ago)

Maybe kids are too short sighted to see the risk, but who says they don’t do that? Among the stupid things I did as a kid was try to turn any tube into a gun/cannon/firework mortar, and hold it in my hands to aim and launch. We even had the benefit of my grandfather losing a couple fingers as a cautionary tale, that we completely ignored. If something happened, could you really call that an accident?

Or the time we were playing with fireworks …. In a barn full of dry hay? I don’t know how my grandfather let us live after that one

….. but there’s a threshold of stupidity where you really can’t call it an accident. I’m happy to have survived in one piece all too many bouts of stupidity but the adult me wouldn’t call it an accident if something happened

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 hours ago

what can a ten year old do(besides mass murder & accidents) that messes up their life so badly that it is unrecoverable?

kill their own parents (it's not technically mass murder until you've killed three people).

[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Actually, the younger you fuck up, the worse are the consequences. A 13 year old go in a school fight, he is kicked out of school, has to go in another school further away, sleep less, see his grade fall down, and next year he'll be pushed to start an apprenticeship rather than high school.

A 31 one year old (otherwise a good citizen) does the same. He'll spend a night in police custody and at worst pays a fine (with a high probability that change are dropped because judges and prosecutor are busy)

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 hours ago

I agree with your general point but I don't agree with your example because apprenticeship can still lead to stable employment and a fulfilling life

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 hours ago

About -9 months, you did not let others pass.