Needlessly censoring words like sex. It wasnβt necessary on Reddit and it certainly isnβt necessary now.
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Censorship like that was introduced to make the platform appealing to advertisers. I'd say just don't give power over how to run the platform to advertisers.
I find it absolutely mind blowing that people are generally accepting that as okay on most social media platforms.
I can only assume that people donβt understand why it was brought in on YouTube and TikTok in the first place because so many people do it when it isnβt remotely necessary. If you make your living posting on social media, then fair enough, I understand you need to fall inline with the rules of the platform. But why the hell would you self censor posts you donβt make money from? Utterly ridiculous.
Making all these posts on Lemmy be about another site.
The community won't flourish if the only thing people are talking about is their social-media ex.
I think we need to give it some time. I was not there when Digg went bad but I'm assuming that in the early days of Reddit, there was a lot of discussion about Digg. Once Reddit reached a critical mass, posts about Digg died down.
To make the ex metaphor. Talking shit about your ex is not productive but talking about what was wrong or didn't work can be very insightful. Entirely blocking your ex out of your mind is a pretty easy way to make the same mistakes again.
I can see why people think it's annoying but I think this is also a good thing. Talking about this helps people understand what they want to see in their communities or instances.
It's the currently trending topic for pretty much everyone here. It will die down by itself eventually as it becomes old news.
Censoring inoffensive words like sex.
Yes, thank you. Excessive prudishness and self censoring is always an indicator to me that a community is going a weird direction.
Allowing racists and fascists a seat at the table under the guise of 'fairness' or 'free speech'. Reddit became polluted with far-right astroturfing in the last six years.
It is not tolerance to welcome those persons who seek to harm you.
Reddit was full of racists even back in the early 2010s. /r/Coontown was a prime example of that.
Reddit became too America focused. Most of the posts were about America or assumed everyone reading was American. It felt very exclusionary.
Not just frequent jokes, but those annoying ever-repeating jokes. Like as if 80% of users were the same person. Before opening any post on Reddit, there is a good chance to be able to correctly predict the exact content of a significant portion of the comments. I get that it can be funny to an individual to come across stuff like "I also choose this guys wife" or "And my axe" more than once. But for people like me, who did not just start using the website, it is really annoying to come across the same jokes literally hundreds of times.
This goes hand in hand with the general idea of a "Reddit hivemind". Depending on the subs you visit, you can see that Reddits userbase is actually really diverse. There are people from every demographic with all kinds of different life experiences. But in a lot of subs, anytime a woman is mentioned there is a flood of people acting like as if there are no women on the internet and as if no person using Reddit could have a girlfriend. Again, I get that it can be funny once or twice. But when the idea that every user must be a typical "Redditor" gets repeated all the time it's just annoying. Needless to say that I don't look forward to being called a "Lemming" on this site.
Also, repeating comments on the same post. Obviously you don't have to read all the comments if there are already hundreds of them. But if there are too many comments saying the exact same thing it just gets harder to read them all. So it would be nice if people would look whether the point they want to make maybe has been made already. They can increase that comment's visibility by upvoting. No need to make other people read the same content multiple times and by that make it harder to read different comments.
This, 11/10 would upvote again, just fucking take my upvote, btw is your wife single by any chance?
Anyone who comments "this", "holup", or "came here to say this" can go fuck themselves.
Now Holup, I came here to say ^this^. Have my updoot kind internet stranger.
If you can't even get yourself to write the word sex, the questions on askreddit were probably not the issue..
I think the whole "no life mods" thing got a bit overblown. Reddit communities flourished generally due to the ones that had good active moderation. Setting a consistent theme and tone for the subreddit and keeping the bad actors out. It takes a lot of work, they did it for free and we benefited.
The issue is when some people are mods for tons of major communities. That's when it is overreaching.
Iβll say the obviousβ¦ blocking WefWef and other apps that improve the user experience.
Ending community names with "porn", so earthporn, designporn always kinda bugged me for some reason. I like porn. I like beautiful non-porn pictures of nature and awesome design too. I just don't know why we need to conflate them or use the term 'porn' as shorthand.
I wonder how much of that are Reddit-specific problems vs just plain old humans online in a pseudo-anonymous setting problem.
Not consulting the user base before making sweeping changes. The users are your life blood, be nice to them.
Ragebait. It's boring and pointless, and it brings out the worst in everyone. I never understood the appeal of being a "troll" though, so idk.
Something else I don't miss, and maybe this is a little more personal, but often when I would try to participate in a conversation, my comment would get auto-removed for some rule/etiquette based reason I could never really wrap my head around. Like, derailing? I thought I knew what that meant, but had comments removed when I was like, "yeah that answer really resonates with me too! My 123 is xyz."
Lemmy so far has been much more welcoming to the neurodiverse and I appreciate the organic, freeflowing nature of conversation here.
Obviously, if someone's being provocatively hateful / an obvious troll, then nuke 'em.
But if people are just trying to join in on the conversation, don't be a pedantic dick about exactly what kind of conversation is allowed. It had gotten to the point where I was afraid to comment at all for fear I'd be doing it wrong.
Outrage bait. Too much of reddit was stories and videos of people acting badly.
I'm a linux developer of 25+ years and I'm permanently banned from /r/linux because I dared criticize systemd.
My answer is therefore: Power-tripping mods. Where mods are required, ensure the community has the ability to oust them.
Circlejerks / echo chambers. Do it for the discussion, not the points.
Why the hell is everyone against questions about sex? Are y'all prudes? There is already a serious lack of discussion about sex in this country to where online forums are the best place you can have such a discussion.
There are "questions about sex" and there are "men/women of reddit/lemmy, what's the sexiest sex you ever sexed" being repeated every other day like on r/askreddit. I assume nobody would reject the occasional insightful sex questions.
this country
Yes, everyone in the fediverse is definitely from the US π
I don't get the issue with sex questions. If people enjoy reading them and answering them why should anyone stop them. If you don't like them, don't click the thread.
I might be in the minority, but shitpost memes like "I'll draw a shitty picture every day until x happens" or "I'll do this based on Y upvotes", and the "here's a random hotdog/Gatorade bottle everyday". I know I can probably just block these kinds of posts, I just never got the appeal of it.
I hope to see less song lyric comment chains on completely unrelated posts. Also I don't know why, but I always hated the whole, 'my partner, let's call them blank (not real name)' thing.
The thing about comment chains is you can collapse them so don't see anything wrong. Let people have their fun and sense of connection with strangers on the internet.
Karma farming bots reposting original user content as their own.
The alternative realities allowed to exist in conservative or republican groups/communities.
I severely wish for this to not happen here. But Iβm not naive, conservatives always follow and then start to destruct what others have created.
Long, predictable comment chains that get repeated over and over e.g. song lyrics
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Downvoting things that you don't like. Around 15 years ago, when Reddit was very very young, downvotes were almost never used, except to weed out bad advice, ignorant replies, abuse, etc. As more people got in, the downvote button became the dislike button; with people even arguing that that was the original purpose of the downvote button. Replying with a link to the reddiquette got you downvoted even more lol.
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Upvoting useless rubbish comments to the top.