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Hey people, during my school years, we always had to ask the teacher to go to the bathroom. Like "May I use the bathroom?", if they said no we were left to our devices which I think is inhumane.( Was a victim myself) What do you guys think especially the teachers about this system considering how difficult it is to manage classroom discipline?

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Delay students from using the bathroom until student has answered the question correctly

Deny access to the bathroom anyways

Student Defecates in the classroom

[–] sleen 12 points 1 week ago

Number 15,

Student Defecates in the classroom

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

*then blame the student.

[–] [email protected] 35 points 1 week ago (1 children)

In my school we were treated as adults and were expected to behave accordingly. Bathroom breaks did not require permission.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 week ago

You could just walk out during lectures , that's very mature of the faculty. In my school, teachers would think we are insulting them by walking out without their permission.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 week ago

We were allowed to go whenever we wanted, but I tried to wait until there was a task/break so I wouldn't miss important info. Kids in Norway are treated like adults, but of course if you're childish and use bathroom breaks as a means to skip class, then you'll always hear a "no" from the teacher.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

If I were to ask to use a toilet in a different country my teacher would probably chuckle and tell me to simply use the one down the hall instead.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

My man..... Ufffff... Can't say you are wrong though.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

It's tough. A lot of kids use it to goof off or vape/do drugs in the bathroom. Even in middle school.

There are definitely kids you can trust, but many at least abuse it to goof off.

Edit: Forgot to state, US.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Hold up? What county is this?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

USA. It’s a big issue.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 week ago

US, similar to others, I had to ask permission and it was always granted.

I can recall once I ran to the bathroom for an emergency without permission. My teacher checked in with me later and discretely to make sure I was ok. Most of my teachers over the years were reasonable people who saw their students as human beings, so I wasn't worried about getting into trouble.

There was a student in my class one year who had to get an escort if he needed to go anywhere during class because he had a history of doing dangerous things. He tried running away, he wandered into a janitor closet and started randomly mixing chemicals together, he went into the teacher lounge and started eating their lunches, he went into the girls locker room and was found rifling through their gym bags. So yeah, from simple liability and the protection of other students, he wasn't allowed to leave the classroom whenever he asked.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago

I don't know about other countries, but in my own, teachers have their own designated bathrooms. As in there are girl's bathrooms for girls, boy's bathrooms for boys, and a third kind of bathroom with a logo not for girls or boys but for teachers (regardless of gender). If I were to use one of these teacher-designated (and yeah it has happened before), I would land myself in more trouble than if I used the boys' bathroom. This being an age where gender norms are being challenged, being caught red-handed once, I made a remark about "sexually identifying as a teacher" which only caused my punishment to double (I even remember asking if the floor or my skirt would be a better option on a bad bladder day and got a blunt yes). Moral of the story, don't get between teachers and their bathrooms, no pun intended.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Fair number of answers, no one saying what country they are from

US here, we had to ask but it was basically always a yes.

Reasons for a no:

Middle of a test

Middle of explaining something important, then you might be asked to wait a few minutes

If you were just abusing the system asked always asking just to get out of class they would probably start saying no. If you had a medical issue you could always meet the teacher after class or before school and say you have a medical issue that prevents your from waiting. It it was a sudden thing like diarrhea... Well just get up and go.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

Also USA. My teachers ran the gamut from not letting anyone to treating us like adults. My school was VERY white with only a handful of black kids across all of high school. One of the teachers was well known for never letting the black kids go until one of them went and peed in his trash can to prove a point.

The ones who treated us like adults got treated with the most respect. Weird how that works.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Above 16 years old we were allowed to take smoke breaks during exams. :)

Only during the final exams we had to be accompanied by a teacher to the toilet and back to the class, smoking was not allowed. Otherwise we basically only had to inform the teacher when we wanted to go to the toilet or go smoking. ;) Ah, the nineties.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago

You had to ask permission, but only so you could be given a toilet pass - this was so if any other teachers or staff saw you walking around you had evidence that you were allowed to be out of class.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

In our kids' elementary school, the rule at the start of year was that kids tell the teacher they have to go, then they simply go. Notifying the teacher is mandatory, 'cos they are responsible for the kids, they need to know where they are.

This was slightly changed since, because of bullies. While the vast majority of kids can go to the bathroom whenever they want, bullies don't: they can only go alone, or supervised. So if there's anyone else out, from any class, they have to wait. If it is urgent, a teacher or another adult will go with them, and stand by the door, close enough to intervene if need be.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Australia, we had to ask until uni

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Yep, had to ask teacher for permission. Some would say 'you should have gone during the break' but I can't remember if anyone was denied (and I don't know if that would be illegal).

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

When I was in school you had to raise your hand during free time to ask. If you raised your hand while the teacher was talking they would ignore you. There was maybe like a 50/50 chance the teacher lets you go to the bathroom and kids that were noisy generally were told no more than yes. Quite a few instances of kids wetting themselves and the class was merciless to them after. Had a whole list of kids who wet themselves.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

In elementary school you needed to ask and take some wooden tag from the class room. Couldn't go if the tag was gone, so only one person at the time. In middle school you don't ask, you just say you're going.

Netherlands btw

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

Switzerland: Generally you are only allowed to go during breaks and if you forget / don't have time due to switching buildings you are told to suck it. Starting a certain age girls are allowed to go whenever, but only some teachers allow it in practice. During breaks though, I never had to ask a teacher.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Germany: basically after you're out if elementary school (10/11), youre expected to only use the bathrooms in breaks or between lessons (at our school, you'd have two 45 minute lessons and then a 20min break in between). If you go in between lessons, you were supposed to tell the teacher, but you didn't need to ask for permission. Going during the lesson was basically a emergency only thing.

I don't think that's unreasonable or inhumane. Your not a toddler, you can hold your pee for a while and plan ahead. I can't remember anyone ever having an accident or problem with it.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

No bathroom breaks during classes.
You can't leave classroom without good cause.
When you ask for permission to use the toilet, there are low chances to grant it. Unless you are a girl, gender bias.

Good luck to find an empty toilet, if you have "shy bladder", between classes.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Girls have periods at inconvenient times.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

But holding a pee isn't healthy for everyone.
Also you should be hydrated during a day.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

In elementary school, during the final year (age 12 or 13) I had a teacher whose system was during work periods you could leave whenever you wanted, but there was a board at the door to mark your name with a clothes pin.

Going to high school, it went back to having to ask for permission, or give a heads up in later years.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

My experience (USA) mirrors yours until high school, which is when we were allowed to just stand up and walk out when we needed to. Kids who abused the privilege were dealt with on a case by case basis.