My partner wants to start a commune and I'm going through all the ways it can go horribly wrong. It already kinda sucks bc they want to do more than just their immediate partners and it looks like I'm the only trans woman involved right now, which means it wouldn't be safe for me to do it. It's a shame :(
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I'm really frustrated by some of these girls in the group chat thing I'm in, I GET what they feel - I've been there I've felt it. I get feeling like being trans is the worst thing ever and you might never pass etc, but they're actively hostile to commiseration and empathy and attribute like my limited success to pure genetics - I don't do the advice thing cause that's usually counter productive but Ill share that, yeah, Im frustrated with my voice toobut its still better than before I started and I pass occasionally. I swear it's like they want to feel bad, oh theyve been training for 5 years and only pass a third of the time yadda yadda. I think being trans is the best thing that happened to me but they seem like they wanna wallow in it being a curse. All the things that suck about being trans are more about how society treats us and not being trans in itself - and there's still really wonderful things about it regardless.
Ew yeah, being trans is a gift and I wouldn't trade it for anything else, despite the hardships
I slid out of the vast majority of trans(femme) spaces because they're full of this and it was doing psychic damage to me. Genetics...
I just couldn't stick it, I refuse to be actively negative about any of my idetities and actively try to root out internalised self hate, so always hearing what is basically trans doomerism? I got tiiiired.
Totally agree. I get that being trans is hard, but I could never imagine myself being a cis person and I wouldn’t want to be one anyway. I wouldn’t trade my transness for anything
I feel ya on that, i hate that kind of self defeating bs as well.
Went out to shop for bras with a friend today since the nipple pain is getting quite bad when wearing certain shirts. It felt really nice to put them on, particularly the first since it compressed my chest enough to make it look like proper cleavage and I felt very euphoric from that. Although that bra wasn't a very comfy fabric so I went for another one in the end.
My friend also did my hair in the morning in a super pretty style and I love them so much for doing it.
Well, things moved fast since the last time i commented; my relationship of 8 years is over, and Im moving back to my birth country, where i have no social circle outside my mother and uncle.
Im trying to find housing, which is like a hybrid of online dating and job searching, but i have to pay and theres no intimacy or sex. Plus queer housing is a requirement which restricts the housing opportunities a bit...
Im trying to keep my head up, but good god this is stressful. And i keep looking at surgeries (ffs, bottom, top) and crying cause ill never be able to afford it.
Got me a 3XL black hoodie that I practically disappear into.
Love my cultural traditional dress.
I have one of these too, I'm 5ft 3 and it makes me feel even smaller ^^ I'd recommend it to anyone as it can make you feel great
I printed DYSPHORIA on an oversized hoodie in the trans pride colours, it's cute, it's my literal dysphoria hoodie
Also it's 10 days until I meet my partner's mom, and she has once again forgotten or "forgotten" that I am trans. I think I'm just gonna ask the boy to not bring it up with her again and see how this goes.
I'll be fine, mostly just worried that the bf will face Mom Homophobia (a very specific form of homophobia) for having a girlfriend.
Receptionist at the clinic asked if I was getting cervical cancer screening and needed to book a pap smear, lol, nope I appreciate it but no gynecologist of any skill level will find a cervix in me, thanks for letting me know I pass though lmao
Went to a high school friend’s birthday party last night, presenting fully fem. This guy who used to be my friend in like elementary school was there. He didn’t recognize me at all and was trying to rizz me up, he asked what my name was, asked how I knew my friend who I came with (probably trying to see if I was his gf), kept looking at me while talking to my friends, and kept trying to find opportunities to like fist bump me so he could touch my hand
I’ll take this as a W but also not really because he was super drunk and gross and saying all this unhinged shit that should warrant him a . At least my friends were all laughing at him though
It's nice when you can tell someone is really putting in effort to remember to use your new name and pronouns, but it's really fucking nice to interact with people who don't even need to try. You just tell them you're a "she" and boom! You just are a she to them from then on.
This is your irregular unscheduled MEN'S SHIRTS POSTING, inspired by LARGE HOODIE POSTING
I may or may not be preaching to the converted here but initially when I came out, I burned my entire wardrobe and for the longest time had almost no men's clothes anymore. Trouble is, I got really tired of how so many "women's" tops are kind of garbage, too tight or uncomfortable, especially with autism/sensory difficulties. So after five or six years, I ended up grabbing a bunch of men's tees from the thrift, in sizes ranging from Large to 4XL. I thought, what's the worst that could happen?
Of course they are incredibly comfortable & highly durable! It's been almost three years since I bought the initial round, and only one out of like five is in need of replacement. Of course they feel great to wear, being so loose, with most of them not even having tags (!!) and being made of a variety of cool materials.
Surprisingly though I also find that shit to be really gender affirming. This has been true of the few bits of men's clothes I've gone back to, but after so long on moans, none of it fits me right anymore! The shoulders in all of the shirts seem to expect that I'm several inches wider than I actually am, my waist feels lost in this giant thing, and they're not cut for boobs which is funny. And they're so long they're almost like skirt length! I feel like I'm inhabiting this huge goofy shirt the same way cis women usually would? Maybe a reductive way to look at it, but it's been really cool seeing how I have changed by observing how I literally no longer fit certain clothes at all.
Win-win imo, huge fan, easy recommend, plus they're cheap as hell.
Anyway the impetus for this post was that some of my internet friends are kind of baby trans, like less than two years, and are still in the "I won't even wear boyshorts cause they have 'boy' in the name" phase. I get it, and maybe they'll just be comfortable exclusively with feminine non-boy clothes forever which is fine too! I just wanted to pose the idea that wearing dude clothes can actually be affirming too, Idk.
I didn't really know ahead of time but it is such a scam that we gotta pay so much more for so much less material and some of the weirdest fucking materials too for women's clothes compared to the old cotton t shirts I had. Also, it was great just tossing everything into one pile in the washer and dryer and not giving a shit if they got wrecked instead of how carefully I gotta seperate now and what has to air dry, what's gotta tumble dry, what's allowed to just be dried. Scrubs are at least a little more durable and that's mainly what I wear now anyway
Okay, reveal: if any of my clothes need to air or tumble dry, I don't know about it, lmao. Seriously annoying and a huge scam...
Basically all clothes will last way longer if you hang dry them. Dryers are the real scam
You can wash your bras in the washer!! Just let them air dry. Dryers WILL fuck up your clothes, that's the main thing damaging them not really the washer. Just check the tag.
I'm transfem but want the vibe of your uncle that smokes weed in the garage
Perfectly reasonable type of butch, go for it.
Me: man I hate yaoi, fucking boykissers are always getting in my way
Mili: hydrangeas are calling my name bring me to a garden I've never seen
Me: god bless the yaoi nation
Queers rock
thigh highs of any variant really do hit those right fem vibes and still give me a bit of gender euphoria
hii hope everyone's having a good week
I told a couple of coworkers I trust that I'm bi. They were really accepting of it. The context here being that before this, we would often joke about when I would get a girlfriend. We often have in jokes like that. I told them it could also be a guy.
i'm having an incredibly rough week with dysphoria and all that. on the bright side, i think i can afford another tattoo.