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What is the logic of bi erasure (hexbear.net)
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How do you accept that someone can be straight and accept that someone can be gay but then insist that, for no reason, it has to be strictly one or the other? It's so funny to me like why would you expect that to be the case

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[-] [email protected] 2 points 3 years ago

If we’re talking people who are cool with straight and gay people but have a problem with bi people specifically: it’s usually a relationship insecurity think.

The assume bi people need constant sexual gratification from both genders and as such are incapable of true monogamy because if they end up with a male partner they will soon yearn for a female one and cheat, and if they end up with a female partner they’ll soon yea... well you get the idea. So they create this narrative that bi people are just going through some hyper sexual stage of their life where they’ll accept any gratification and if they want a more stable relationship they’ll have to ID what gender they actually want to be with.

Totally not speaking for a year long relationship with a very insecure women who couldn’t stand the fact I had hooked up with a few guys before her.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 3 years ago

its also tinged with misogyny and that dick > vagina: bi women are hets who are pretending to be into girls and bi men are gay guys who cant accept themselves. Doesnt help that a lot of gay men do actually come out as bi first, present company included lol

[-] [email protected] 1 points 3 years ago

bi women are hets who are pretending to be into girls

There’s also some rad fems who think bi women are lesbians holding onto some attraction to men they were conditioned to have.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 3 years ago

rad fems will just assume anyone's a lesbian, won't they

[-] [email protected] 1 points 3 years ago

Oh shit am I a lesbian? I do have sex with women.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 3 years ago

Sorry, everyone's a lesbian now. Including the straight women. And inanimate objects. Gotta get that gay grass.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 3 years ago

Me writing fanfic at age 15

[-] [email protected] 1 points 3 years ago* (last edited 3 years ago)

A lot of the times I've experienced biphobia, I've found it to be rooted in relational insecurity, and outright homophobia, but also a lot of relational insecurity.
"Can't people like you just pick one? It's a lot easier if I only have to worry about competition from one group."

[-] [email protected] 1 points 3 years ago

That's how lightswitches work so that's how everything works

[-] [email protected] 1 points 3 years ago

I think they're just stupid assholes? That does tend to be the case with bigots

[-] [email protected] 1 points 3 years ago

But what's going on in their heads? Why deny the existence of bi people instead of just hating us like a normal bigot?

[-] [email protected] 1 points 3 years ago

That's where the stupid comes in!

[-] [email protected] 1 points 3 years ago

becauae theyre jealous of our cool flag :flag-bi-pride:

[-] [email protected] 1 points 3 years ago

I'm bi and in my opinion the bi flag is one of the worst LGBT flags. The colours are dark, boring and lack contrast. The trans flag or the lesbian flag with the cool axe are much better.

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