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The whole idea is a privacy minefield, so it would have to be very carefully designed and implemented, of course making it opt-in. But still, should we even pursue this idea?

So that, for example, even if I met someone just briefly, they can still later see the contact information that I am willing to provide.

Wouldn't that make it much easier to connect with people who live close to you?

Are there any relevant projects or ideas that already exist?

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[–] [email protected] 67 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I kinda can't see many women wanting to share any contact information with the random creepy stranger sitting opposite them on the train.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It should also creep man out a lot. There are a lot of weirdos out there.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago

Oh, definitely. It's just that in my experience, women are more likely to be immediately wary of this possible danger. Or maybe I'm biased because I'm a woman. But men definitely can (and should) be wary as well.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 year ago

GRINDR used to have this feature;. Usually, it was just annoying with randos (who never read my profile and had nothing in common with me) messaging me simply because I'm in the vicinity. Occasionally, guys got creepy/stalky and randomly knocked on neighbours doors trying to find me.

I don't recommend resurrecting it.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 year ago

Are there any relevant projects or ideas that already exist?

Yes there is, it's called a business card. It's opt in, has all your relevant information, and best bit, no phones or proprietary software required.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Fuck no. If I fucking wanted to talk to those fucks I'd fucking talk to them. If I fucking wanted them to have fucking information about me, I'd fucking give it to them.

There is not enough fucking fucks to emphasis how fucking bad, how fucking stupid, and how fucking deranged this idea is.

fuck

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Seriously fucking sounds fucking awful

[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Does using your mouth not work lol

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm socially neurotic about bothering other people. I hate the idea of forcing myself into someone else's day by talking at them.

An app would kind of solve that, because they'd have to have their phone set to accept my advances.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Then why are you wanting to exchange information if you don't want to talk to them. Also that'd be weirder to do that, where it's a lot more socially comfortable and acceptable to just talk in person if you can. It's much better to get consent in person then through privacy settings through technology

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (8 children)

I want to talk to them! I am afraid of ruining their day by being an unwanted intruder.

I won't get consent in person, I'll just never talk to anyone and die alone. πŸ‘

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago

This sounds like it would be of particular interest to creeps and stalkers, I can't see how it would possibly be safe.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I am struggling to wrap my mind around how stupid of an idea this is

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago

Oh god no. I always keep gps/location/mobile internet turned off unless I actually need it. I don't want to connect with people. Quite the opposite.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

Have you, or are you planning to, stalk someone? Because that sounds like something a stalker would propose.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

That's a great way to attract stalkers.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Nintendo had a feature like this implemented in the 3DS called StreetPass. When you passed someone else with a 3DS it would share some information (like game data) that you could later review.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

The way Apple does this with Name Drop, where you have to bring your device very physically close to the other, sounds like a much better idea.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I may be alone in this, but rather than profiles, a pseudonymous 'map chat' would be really useful jn a number of ways.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Hahah that's what yik yak used to be! Unfortunately it did not go terribly well..

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Nintendo StreetPass? Used to be super popular in big cities.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

I like this idea provided it's 100% opt-IN and not opt-out. Nintendo's 3ds streetpass did something like this and it's very cool being able to see what other people are in your area with a 3ds. A social media focused on this would be pretty neat IMO.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Pretty sure my phone already does this you just have to pay google a fraction of a penny to see it

[–] treadful 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm a little sad I missed out on Yik Yak, tbh. I think the idea of interacting with people within your proximity has power. Whether it just be casually BSing with your neighbors, or having conversations about a sports event.

I'd prefer if it were anonymous/pseudonymous with effective location fuzzing, though. But that could in theory include profiles with details you're willing to share with randos. Could have augmented reality (AR) uses as well.

As long as you control the information and have the ability to shut it off entirely, it could be useful.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Yik yak was fun, but the reason it was fun was because it was (somewhat) anonymous. The local memes, hilariously kinky posts, and general news was fun. The cyber bullying and depression posts were probably what ended up killing the app.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

No. This would be a mess security-wise.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Theoretically one could ask for contact information

Practicality one is not brave enough

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Isn't that what the dating app hinge does?

It shows you the profile of people you passed by throughout the day I think.

I mean if you want to I don't see the problem with it. Might be interesting, as long as you can choose when and where your profile might be shown and what information is on your profile.

Definitely don't think it should be some mandatory thing though.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

There's something similar on some bicycle computers, e.g., Wahoo's Find a Friend: https://support.wahoofitness.com/hc/en-us/articles/115000387844-Find-a-Friend-feature-on-the-ELEMNT-BOLT-ROAM

Not sure the extent to which it shares information though.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

You're in luck because Facebook secretly has this feature and can magically suggest you friends based on that.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Even if it is opt-in, I personally would absolutely not trust it.

Who's to say there wouldn't be a glitch in an update that causes your location to leak and some wannabe serial killer doesn't come and try to kill you?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

So kinda like Happn but without the protection of needing to match first?

The idea doesn't really entice me. I'm sure I'm passing by lots of interesting people on a daily basis that's worth connecting to, but the risk of exposing myself to the types of people I'd like to avoid outweighs that reward for me.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

nah, i think what apple did is a great implementation if your idea. simple and safe. just tap two phones together and contact info is shared. i think android should be able to do this too. but ofc, it's "Apple-only" like airdrop

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Samsung has something similar but using QR codes. You just pull up the code associated with your profile, the other person scans it, and boom, contact added. I'm not sure if it works phone types though. I assume it would.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This isn't exactly what you're going for since it isn't automatic, but Apple is introducing NameDrop in iOS 17 which will allow you to share contact info by holding iPhones next to each other (somewhat similar to Bump back in the early 2010s). Of course this is closed to Apple devices which sucks, but the idea of being able to hold phones to each other to share contact info would be ideal for me - it'd be quick so I wouldn't have to think about it and would be willing to do it even for brief interactions, and ensures my info is only shared with who I trust.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I think in general it would be problematic, but also I wish streetpass still existed because that made traveling fun

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

In the upcoming iOS 17, there is a feature to tap two phones together to share whichever contact information you choose to. It’s all a manual process though, as I think it should be.

I could see a world where augmented reality glasses could show people’s names floating above their heads, if they opted in. It would be useful for private work meetings and small classes, not so much for walking around in public. Would need fine grained controls over sharing what, to who, when and where.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Dude I saw this idea in a future doco, in the 90s. People had badges that lit up when profiles had similarities. It never happened of course.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

The one I remember seeing was a massive badge that lit up. Obviously never became a real thing, unless it turned into that.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

That sounds like a nightmare to be honest. Not something I would dream of using.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Something like Google's Exposure Notification API but for memes... All the controversy but none of the morbidity...

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Telegram messenger has this feature, but I don't remember any of my friends having it on.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Sadly it just results in spam from pornusers that fake their location

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