NationProtons

Does this actually transfer to real life situations though?

I found one of the best ways to improve my working memory for certain tasks, it’s just to do those tasks.

Like, I used to be really bad at cooking, but in the past months, I’ve been preparing meals every day. And I noticed it’s easier to figure out what things to combine from the fridge, keep everything in my head and work on preparing the parts without having to rely too much on timers and recipes to know when and how to prepare things.

It does seem to help. I recently made a commitment to avoid digital media on my own.

I don’t think games or reddit or browsing is necessarily that bad in limited amounts. But it becomes too easy to start spending all your time on it because everything else feels too much effort and less fun.

I still allow myself any form of digital entertainment, but only when I do something together with friends. That way I still have some social contact, and I’ll have to do the effort to meet up if I want to do something fun.

When I’m by myself I’ll usually limit myself to reading, writing, going for walks, etc

Wow, that would be annoying. Currently I’m basically living in a studio, so would be difficult to avoid a specific spot in the home.

I have considered changing professions in the past, but i don’t think I could do a switch at this moment.

I don’t think i could easily find a job in a different field and I’m a bit worried that I would get lost and lose energy, even in seemingly simple jobs.

Not in one field specifically. But I have the most experience in software engineering, functional analysis, and tutoring (university-level)

I actually experimented with this in the past.

It does help quite a bit. ( but for some projects i would spend too much time catching up what i missed the other days)

The trouble is mostly finding part time work. When I tried it in the past, it was because I was already working full time and asked to have it reduced.

But now i don’t have a job, and finding pastime options from the start seems to be more difficult than finding a full time job.

I suppose I could start something full time and ask for a reduction later. But I’m a bit worried on how long I’ll be able to handle working full time.

How do you make sure every possibility is covered though?

I don’t really go to a doctor regularly.

Do you think I should? And try to find a doctor which seems competent? But how do you evaluate this? And how regularly should you visit a doctor?

Usually when I finally get to a doctor, most of my symptoms are already over. When feeling bad, I typically won’t make an appointment because I feel mentally incapable. Unable to make an appointment, get there, and then manage to explain what is wrong.

That sounds almost impossible to me.

What do you do then though?

I find myself getting even more tired if i spend that time on my phone for example.

Here it’s quite typical to have a 30 min break for lunch.

But that’s just spent on getting food, eating and returning to the office.

It just doesn’t feel enough for me on a given day.

And I’m really bad at figuring out how to take short breaks like my colleagues do. Having a 10 min talk with coworkers doesn’t really feel like a break. And I often don’t know how long and what kind of things are acceptable, so I tend to avoid taking any breaks.

Sounds stupid, but there is just some kind of underlying fear that I can’t get out of my head. And having less time to work on my actual responsibilities make that more stressful as well.

I suppose I wouldn’t have noticed it because usually the moments I’m doing more sports are also the moments when I’m not working and usually not meeting people. (Since I wouldn’t have the energy otherwise)

Might be good to keep an eye out for those activities after sports, thanks for the suggestion!

How do you find a cool spot and quiet time when at work?

I find this very difficult to achieve in an office environment. Although I definitely need it.

Just the though of somebody asking me why I’m sitting somewhere separately makes me uncomfortable. So I tend to avoid taking these kind of breaks. I know, sounds stupid. But I feel so uncomfortable if I’m thinking about how other people will interpret it.

I think not having time for myself to just think or relax can be one of the most demotivating things to realize.

I understand that I need to work to earn money to survive, but when I’m working, I start having difficulties staying on top of chores and I don’t really have energy left to enjoy what little time remains.

This quickly turns into exhaustion, depression and whatnot. Which eventually lowers my performance at work until I just have to quit to recover.

When out of a job, I tend to recover decently over a period of a few months. But soon I’ll have bills to pay and no money left, so back to work it is. And the cycle repeats.