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What generation are you? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Elder millennial here

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How long does it take for neurotypical (or just typical) people to get over a minor fight? (endlesstalk.org)
 

Tldr: my wife and I get into verbal fights quite often (once a month or so) I get over it in an hour and it takes her days. Both of us think that the other's timeline isn't normal. What's typical/normal?

I'm ADHD (my current therapist thinks it's AuDHD) so I'm prone to emotional deregulation and pretty crazy mood swings. I'm pretty sure my parents are somehow ND as well so I don't have the best basis. My wife is also ND, but it's audio processing not emotionally related

My wife and I get into fights and arguments sometimes over petty stuff. I feel I hear her out but it's difficult for her to listen to me straight through as I tend to take a while to get to my point. She interrupts me a lot with either snide comments or questions that if she just waited a sec I'd answer. This leads me to getting frustrated and raising my voice and yelling, which gets her pissed off and raises her voice and suddenly we're in a shouting match.

Eventually one of us gives up or realizes they're wrong and we end the fight and go to our separate (safe) areas.

After about an hour I feel I'm back to normal and can talk about other things. (We usually have something we need to do with our kids or work or the house that we need to communicate on).

My wife feels it takes her a day or two to come down from a fight so shes very short with me until that time, where I feel I can talk after an hour or so.... She feels that it's not normal to change in that short of time.

What do people think?

What's an idea you have that should be an actual thing? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Yeah. But she wanted to carry a really small purse that wouldn't be able to hold the foldable :(

What's an idea you have that should be an actual thing? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago (3 children)

After an impromptu upscale bar/lounge crawl with the wifey the other day.....

A shoe that can easily go back and forth from high heel/wedge to comfortable flats w/o much, if any, tooling or carrying around extra parts. She also brought a clutch purse

Wifey was dead the next day from foot pain of walking between places.

Hamas launches rocket attack on Tel Aviv for first time in months in c/globalnews
[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

You missed it. I'm talking from the pov of Israel, not Palestine.

Hamas has it in their charter to destroy Israel and every other Jew in the world...

"From the river to the sea" doesn't mean "hey Israel, get off our backs" it means death to Israel. And when has appeasement ever worked?

You also never answered my question.

Hamas launches rocket attack on Tel Aviv for first time in months in c/globalnews
Hamas launches rocket attack on Tel Aviv for first time in months in c/globalnews
USA ADHDers. Anybody have luck getting their stimulants abroad? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

I'm not saying that. Just asking for myself. Haha

Is texting not a conversation, or is it just me? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

It's not just you. I hate texting in general unless it's for work. Usually if I'm running around on errands or a nice walk, I end up getting a text response to someone from an hour ago, and it boils my nerves that I feel I need to respond.

I'd rather be on a phone call to get all information in/out at once. Especially with wireless headset/earbuds

Though my therapist thinks I'm AuDHD. So that gives credence to your asd worry

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USA ADHDers. Anybody have luck getting their stimulants abroad? (endlesstalk.org)
submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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Having issues gathering vyvance, which is slightly working for me. A friend suggested that she has friends who can help get some from Brazil, where the DEA isn't down everyone's throat. Just curious about people's experiences

If we can ban trans medical procedures, why haven't we banned circumcision? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

It is a religious practice for Jews ... I completely agree with your point of it being a "health fad" for non-jews though.

My real worry with Google's voyage into enshittification (thanks to Cory Doctorow @pluralistic the term) is YouTube. in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago

Ask any Dr who fan. The BBC did this as well back in the day......

Which album was a band's creative zenith/magnum opus before falling off? in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago (2 children)

More popular, more commercially successful, and more accessible to casual fans. Agreed.

But for magnum opus, I gotta agree with the wall for a few reasons

  1. They made a movie out of it
  2. The ode to the intense para social relationships that revolve around stardom and how a truly crazy creative can take advantage of it in scary ways was not only true back then, but predictive of how much worse it would get in current time.
  3. DSotM always seemed like a lot of good ideas in an unordered list. I felt like they could be scrambled and the album would be similar, except for the first and last songs.. Meanwhile the wall tells a story of pain, alienation, search for meaning, lashing out, and then a quest for self-forgiveness.
I'm really getting over the enshitification of the internet. in c/[email protected]
[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Regardless, I switched off brave because I was tired of getting ads in the browser. Been using ff for a while now

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How To Unmap/remap an album/tracks in Lidarr? (endlesstalk.org)
 

HELP!!!

I have three situations, all would be very helpful if I could manually update the mappings of individual files or albums. If this is the wrong sub/community, can you point me in the right directions?

  1. I have an album that i accidentally mapped to the wrong artist/album combination and now it won't let me change it because I also tagged it, even renaming doesn't help.
  2. I have an album where the 1st and 6th song switched during the mapping/renaming/tagging process and now, even if I rename the files and retag them manually using id3, both lidarr and plex think they're the wrong track
  3. I have an album that's not only a standalone album, but also a disc in a box set, I'd rather have it as part of the box set, but can't figure out how to unmap/remap the album to move it to under the box set, when I have the rest of the box set already set up properly

Any help would be appreciated, thanks!

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How did money work on deep space 9? (endlesstalk.org)
submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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Whenever there's a storyline with quark, they talk about money/latinum.

I remember in one of the next gen episodes that there was discussion about money and Picard said something about how they've moved away from money.

So do Starfleet get paid now?

Update: thank you for the quick responses. From what I'm gathering the tldr is that the following is the answer

  • Ferengi love for money/not being a post scarcity society by design
  • Bajorans being so near their slavery times and not post scarcity yet
  • Quark creating an atmosphere of camaraderie/gambling/upgraded replicators/actual food

All this requires some form of currency.

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Whats your best head shavers (endlesstalk.org)
 

Hey all, just found this sub

Any recommendations for an electric razor to use on your head in the shower? I've been shaving my head with a Gillette simple razor for a few years now. But every time I change the blade I end up with way too many nicks and cuts.

Thoughts?

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Do you basically get double taxed if you make non deductable contributions to a traditional ira? Why do it? (endlesstalk.org)
 

In the US, if you make a lot, are covered by a work retirement account or you contribute to a Roth, you can't deduct traditional ira contributions right?

So that money gets added to the rest of your traditional ira monies right? and then when you hit retirement age, you have to pay income level taxes on deductions on that already post tax money right?

Why get taxed twice? What's the benefit? +Not being able to touch it til retirement age.

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Case reccomendation for the P7P? (endlesstalk.org)
 

Hi,

I'm looking for a case that not only has a screen protector that's not a glorified sticker. But also a way that has a magsafe back so I can use a magnetic wireless charger.

I've seen quite a few that's the former (my current one), a few the latter, but none that are both :(

Thanks!

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