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[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (4 children)

So that trans youth growing up see trans adults in their community

When i was a teenager back in the early 00s, i went to a trans support group. It largely consisted of older transitioners, age 50+, who were not living good lives, through no fault of their own. But it was a very dark experience for me. I expected that my life would play out like theirs, and i would join the 41% club. I never thought that I'd get to experience just being a regular girl, and that part still seems surreal a decade later.

This is a common experience for young trans people seeking support. This is "trans visibility" and it harmed me profoundly. What would've been really nice back then were successful role models who make their trans-ness an incidental detail. We have those now, and they're not what I'd call "visible" to cis people, although they don't hide who they are.

so that trans adults see older trans people.

I'm still waiting to find older rolemodels. Most of us are really sad when we get older. I don't know how similar this is to the general lgbt population, but I'm concerned. My goal is to build a little family, and then just live a quiet life and keep each other close.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Hi trashgirlfriend, your username is cute, will you marry me so we can have a short, toxic marriage with lots of good sex and domestic violence?

[–] [email protected] 18 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

The strongest indicator that shoes will work for you, according to the research is... Do they feel good? I'd suggest going to a running store and trying on different brands and jogging around the store. Once you find a comfy pair, you probably chose well.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

That was my immediate thought. This is obviously the output of an LLM.

Prompt: "list the ways the 1% (or the most affluent and powerful segment of society) is actively preventing true ownership of the things we buy"

[–] [email protected] 20 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Lmao that's a really good analogy. If i had extra nipples, i wouldn't want "extra nipples day of visibility" but i also wouldn't want anyone to make a big deal about me taking my shirt off at the beach.

[–] [email protected] 105 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (3 children)

All the people saying "yes" are incorrect. Running on pavement and running on trails exert different strains on the body, but not less. The tendency in road runners is to end up with tibial stress fractures, and in trail runners it is metatarsal stress fractures, but the injury rates are similar. Trail running requires stronger stabilizer muscles (primarily gluteus medius) to maintain knee health in the long term, but this is a problem for both as well.

Use good shoes, strength train your gluteus medius and calves, do most of your miles at an easy pace, and you'll be running for decades, regardless of your chosen surface. You might even change it up and do both!

(My credentials are that i am an ultramarathoner and have run half a dozen races between 26.2 and 50 miles, on pavement and trail, and i have been coached by a professional ultra runner for several seasons.)

[–] [email protected] 35 points 9 months ago (17 children)

"We can disappear into the world and continue to live in the shadows," he says. "But ultimately, that's not how it's supposed to be."

Ugh. I really wish people would quit saying this. I don't want "visibility." "Trans visibility" feels like an insult. I want to be invisible, and anything less is torment. Some people will never pass as the gender they identify with, but for them to prescribe their feelings on all of us is not fair.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

Angry hand gestures, obviously taking their time getting out of the way, etc

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Positive 😄 i went to marbella for a medical thing and stayed in the old town, and when the hospital sent a car to pick me up, people were very annoyed every time.

[–] [email protected] 87 points 9 months ago (12 children)

I make eye contact and walk at a normal pace. In Spain people get mad when cars drive down city streets. They glare daggers at you while they clear the street begrudgingly. We need that energy in the United States. Cars should know that they are second class citizens.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

I haven't bought a house yet. Been house shopping for about 4 months trying to find something in my budget. I drive a beat up old Honda Civic.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 9 months ago

Portland, OR. My budget realistically maxes out around 600k, and so far at that price all i can find are weird houses from 100 years ago with various flaws or in bad neighborhoods. Good houses seem to start around 750k.

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