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[–] [email protected] 28 points 10 months ago (9 children)

I once thought that if i could ever make six figures, I'd be set for life. I could have anything i wanted. Now i make multiple times that number and i can still barely afford a house that's big enough for my family of 3. I'm house poor and an emergency could bankrupt me in an instant. I'm in the top like 0.1% of income earners. What the fuck?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

it wasn’t rape-rape

It almost never is. Reminds me of that one scene in Bottoms. "Gray area stuff counts too."

[–] [email protected] 49 points 10 months ago (37 children)

I have a schedule that has events going out until 6+ months from now. How do you survive with adult responsibilities without doing that?

[–] [email protected] 24 points 10 months ago

This is ultimately a big part of it, and it's universal, not just in dating. Most friendships are "friendships of convenience" and the other types of relationships typically progress from there. But in western culture, we don't have any third places, and so we just plain don't make friendships of convenience anymore.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 10 months ago (10 children)

I've found several long term relationships off tinder as a WLW. It seems to work pretty well for me. The system doesn't seem to be working for guys, and that's unfortunate. But a lot of the pressure on women to settle for any man has gone away as women have become more self reliant. The whole thing has become far more consensual and less mandatory for survival. That's going to influence men's dating success no matter what medium people use to find matches.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 10 months ago

I had to do this with my ex too 😅 we're both women but men listen to me. My ex is a combat veteran with ptsd, and it can make her seem unstable, even though she's incredibly sharp and there's no one I'd rather have with me in an emergency.

[–] [email protected] 145 points 10 months ago (13 children)

It's crazy how much height subconsciously influences our opinions of each other. I'm tall enough that most men don't look down at me, and I'm widely respected professionally. Men listen when i talk in meetings, and it's very easy to sell my ideas to people. My shorter coworkers who are more talented than i am struggle to gain respect.

My ex is 5'2" and i have very strong feelings of cute aggression towards her, and have to consciously remind myself to consider her opinions sometimes. It doesn't help that she acted like a child a lot during our relationship 😒

[–] [email protected] 26 points 10 months ago (17 children)

You're missing the point. At a right turn, traffic is coming from the left and pedestrians are coming from the right. You focus left to make sure traffic is clear and then go, meanwhile a pedestrian has entered the intersection from the right and you don't notice them.

[–] [email protected] 50 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I only want gay sex in media. Straight sex makes me uncomfortable.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago (3 children)

the dark harbinger of chaos and sexual anarchy

Me when i hit on someone in a stable polycule

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

Prepagaged food is generally quite bad for you. Rancid oils, high fructose corn syrup in everything, low fiber, mystery preservatives, and so on. When i lived on that kind of food, i rapidly gained weight to 210 lbs. I look at pictures of myself from back then and it's horrifying. I look like I'm dying. I started cooking my own food from simple ingredients, and within a year i was down to 140. I've kept it off ever since.

[–] [email protected] 50 points 10 months ago (4 children)

Very few of us are judging them. We all feel the same way. My heart breaks for that girl. I remember when i was that pretty. Now I'm just tired and old. They steal your soul, one stressful day at a time.

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