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For what it’s worth, if you can I would highly recommend joining a sports team, preferably for a fairly mixed gender sport, like ultimate frisbee or something where there are both genders represented even if not on the field together. To a lesser extent I’d recommend any other mixed activity, even if not a team sport per se, they will provide similar benefits, e.g. a climbing group or a running club.

Team sports give lots of benefits, its exercise, camaraderie, shared goals and personal improvement and eventually mastery (with practice). This is a mental health win win win. And a happier more confident and assured version of yourself will find it easier to make connections in anything you do.

It should also help social isolation. It’s a great organic way of meeting people in real life which is so important, way more so than internet stuff. And even if the love of your life isn’t in the group, perhaps someone in the groups cousin or sibling or friend is. Perhaps they see what a nice person you are and think you’d be a great match for the other single person in their life.

I’m not saying the apps don’t ever work, I’ve been to two app originated weddings. But I’ve been to a lot more weddings where people met on their sports social night, or were introduced by their mutual friend from the hockey club etc.