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I don't really like that the feminist stance on cis marriage is that women should keep their own surname rather than taking the man's (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Why can't it be something fun like swapping surnames and then creating a portmaneau or blended name for the kids.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I actually have a somewhat serious question about this. I know a guy who had a really bland and boring surname so when he got married he took his wife's name. The thing is, she's from an ethnic minority and he is not. Am I wrong to think it's weird for a white person to change their name to a minority one but not the other way around? A Huang changing their name to Smith feels normal but a Smith changing their name to Huang just feels appropriationy.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Maybe the reason you think that is internalised normalisation of whiteness though

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

You're probably right. Normal was also a really poor choice of word.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago

wow.. uhh... "normal" is something you might want to examine there