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How do you get white men at your org to shut the fuck up and make space for other people? (hexbear.net)

submitted 3 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I've had a few events so far where the discussion/feedback part had 1-2 white guys doing longgggg monologues about something unrelated to the main topic. Last time had some stoner guy ranting about the confusing service at airports here (the event was about Gaza). Before that it was some boomer guy trying to explain Madonna to the non-white teens in our group (the event was about trans rights). Sometimes it's just two white guys monologuing back and forth. It's super counter productive and cringe.

I'm just thinking of a hard rule. Like "if you're a white guy, you're welcome, but please try to listen more and keep unrelated monologues to a minimum."

For the record, I am a white dude.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Can you get the white guys to talk with each other for a little while while the Adults in the Room™ get stuff done?

[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 months ago (2 children)

You joke, but I've actively tried to organise exactly this a few time already. It can be a quick fix.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 3 months ago

...that was only a partial joke. Sometimes people are lonely and bored and just need to talk. They go to important meetings and talk there, interrupting the meeting. A good org I think would create social get-togethers as well so serious matters can then be discussed efficiently.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Lol just be like "who here likes fly fishing?"

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

If they're old white guys, invite them fishing. If they're young white guys, invite them to a craft brewery. White people love craft breweries for some reason.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

White people love craft breweries for some reason.

its true I do

I mean not as much as some people do, I've gotten more choosy as I get older but they're usually a fun atmosphere. I get a little weirded out when people bring their kids though.