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If you had to divide your life by one event, before and after, what would that event be and why? (lemmy.autism.place)

submitted 2 weeks ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I guess it's another way of asking, "What event in your life had to most effective impact?"

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 weeks ago

Maybe, actually, my first punk rock show at 14. I still had trouble but pretty sure getting into that scene diverted me from severe alienation in school, and having older people as friends cushioned the blow when my dad died. I think without that I wouldn't have lived this long.

But as an adult? Having kids for sure. Because I needed more money, went back to school, got a real job, and because my first pregnancy did so much more to heal my lingering anorexia than anything else - feeling like my body was real, and useful, and beautiful, I dunno how to explain it (and I'm sure this could go in the opposite direction for some) but for me it was quite healing. That set me on a different path and again, without them I probably wouldn't have lived this long.

The last pivot point in my life was my breakup with my ex, that was a fast track to prosperity in a two income household with a guy who loves me for me. I wholeheartedly hope this trajectory holds.

So three inflection points I see.