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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Hell yeah!

Well intentioned cis outsider here, so I hope this comes across in the spirit it's intended.

For better or worse, I can imagine that this decision would ironically make many people more comfortable, as they wouldn't experience the same level of perceived gender ...dissonance(?). Whatever the case, you don't need me to tell you that it's certainly not your job to adjust your identity or presentation to please people, and it's a rad look - I don't think I could help but take a bit of an admiring look tbh.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

But don’t get me wrong; I’m not giving up; I’m very much she/her, but that’s more in a sense of “I’m just not gonna dress like the women around me, I got my own style to maintain,” and that style simultaneously filters out most cis folk, and gives queers something to compliment, an easy in to start talking with me.

Self-selection at work!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

With a look like that, you strike me as the last person to give up tbh.

Whatever the case, I appreciate people with the... whatever it is to express themselves like you - even if I'm a vanilla cishet black T and jeans everyday kinda guy - selfishly, the fact that you are who you are and do what you do gives me hope that we're (painfully slowly) creeping forward toward better things as a society... the kind of nonsense you endure notwithstanding.

Don't change for anyone - you seem rad as-is.