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Thank you for taking the time and energy to write this out. Up until this point I have been pretty good about keeping the systemic line in mind. Which is to say, understanding that his position is the result of societal failing of needy people, and that I cannot create the degree of support he needs out of whole cloth by myself.
When I wrote my post, I was stuck in anxiety and the individualist/atomized line of 'I have a personal responsibility to do everything in my power for this person'.
In particular thank you for this thought: "Everything you spend playing defense is something you can't spend playing offense."
I often motivate myself with the reminder "I was not born to play defense".