politics

The lack of empathy that I sometimes see in this area is glaring, just like the video points out.

That's a bummer. One of the core tenets of leftist thought of any denomination is empathy. I'm certainly not on some "All problems are of equal importance/All lives matter" shit, but yeah dudes dating problems is a real issue that deserves empathy. It's not like a climate change critical level issue, but it is an issue that regular working people face everyday, and the desire for emotional and sexual connection and validation is just a human issue. We gotta at least have empathy on that level.

Yes misogyny, patriarchy, and capitalism have given men tons of unseen advantages, but the men who suffer under misogyny, patriarchy, and capitalism aren't really the shotcallers of existing social order . If anything the katz who are looking for advice on this sort of thing would rather it NOT be this way, especially anyone who is on a leftist message board like this.

My point is I guess we gotta at the very least not handwave another person's problem away when they say "Hey I'm having problems with X". As bell hooks calls it "White-Supremacist Capitalist Patriarchy", is very REAL and I'm not saying we should minimize its uneven burdens and suffering it throws out. I'm just saying whenever someone says they wants to connect with other people (sexual, romantic, platonic, beyond or in-between those previous types), it's probably a bad move to tell them their problem isn't real. Alienation from each other and ourselves sucks, and it sucks more when that alienation is offhandedly dismissed.