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Resources to help me make the child or childfree decision (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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What helped you make the decision to be child-free? How do I be sure about what I want? Looking for recommendation - resources, articles, books etc.

My partner just let me know he would be ready to start trying in a year. My head just spun. I am not ready now at 31 (as a woman and my clock is going tick-tock) and I don't think I will ever be ready. I am neither excited about the process of birthing nor does a crying pooping tantrum-throwing machine excite me!

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I have 2 kids and I cannot see myself without them anymore. However, they were a conscious and thought out choice I discussed with my partner.

With all of that said, having kids is hard, even when everything is going well. You are not the master of schedule for 10+ years and a lot of extra responsibilities are added to your life that you cannot ignore.

You miss out on a lot of experiences by not having kids, but that's the same thing for having kids. You can do whatever you want whenever you want.