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Generalizing a bit here but you seem to dislike one of the bigger social evens that your age demographic enjoys. Maybe give bars a shot? Now I'm not saying you need to go clubbing, but there are many different varieties of bars. Scope out some quieter places that focus on more group activities. Places that will host a trivia night, or are a pool hall or something like that. My only other suggestion would be to focus on activities that are your interests/hobbies. If you don't have any hobbies or interests that in social it might be time to get some new hobbies. Treat it like dating, if you have certain expectations of someone then you need to at least meet those expectations if not exceed them.
You should delete the first half of your response. OP said they don’t like bars, drinking or parties. Your advice should not be “well other people your age do so just do what they do.” They told you they weren’t into it, so listen to them.
And they also said that they are having trouble making friends, especially their age. So nah I'm not going to delete it. That's my advice, if they don't want to take it that's fine, but there 0 reason to be so annoyed by my comment. If you have exhausted your options and nothings working, sometimes you may have to do things you might not want to.