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As a neurodivergent person, I get it. I wish people had the patience to reconsider their possible ableism. But I'm not trans, so I cannot judge the person. Maybe people use neutral terms as soft ways to misgender the person frequently. Idk. I am sorry. :(
I guess that's what they thought I was doing but I wasn't and it's like there was like a valid explanation for why this surgery was necessary that was not elsewhere in the thread but like woops whole comment deleted :/
Fact of the matter is that it hurts people whether ur intentions were meant to or not, and it's not really up to you to decide when people are allowed to get to be hurt by things like misgendering. It's not a perfect system, but it's making do with the complications of the language we have. They can be a degendering word, which can be degrading to somebody who is constantly degendered. At the same time it's the best word to use as a gender neutral word and sometimes this issue will come up. It's just best to be kind to each other and changing one word is part of that some times.
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