It doesn’t often seem to be a technical issue either, more-so a user experience or design problem

Oh 100%. The problem is that there's a lack of UX designers and such in the Open Source community. There's technical people building stuff but they often don't know how to make a good user experience (or in some cases they don't care to).

personally when it comes to the onboarding im more on the side of "self host your own onboarding, for friends and family and shit, and then federate out from there if needed."

Theoretically doing a clean onboarding shouldn't be very difficult. More involved i suppose, but if you don't have the time to figure out how a federated instance works, (or to properly document it) you shouldn't be on the internet, you have more pressing matters to attend to.

Yeah. I still don't understand all the encryption stuff. I lost all my encrypted texts even after I used my recovery pass phrase on a new session.

But to be honest, many discord servers are used for things they really shouldn't be used for... Like code documentation and bug tracking

Doesn't seem that bad, when you go to log in it checks your IP, length of time on the site and mouse movements.

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almost every hobby has moved to facebook and it's the same damn thing. utterly useless for the purpose people try to use it for.

i don't know what the fuck is wrong with people, but this is definitely one of the pinnacles.

I let you in on a secret: Discord also needs a server 🙃

yeah, host one. It's not expensive. Certainly cheaper than paying for discord nitro (which you don't have to do if you want shitty audio/video streaming quality and no emojus features)

Something like Revolt could maybe be a replacement for discord