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[–] [email protected] 32 points 3 months ago

When someone says my name with the correct pronunciation and accent 😳 how do they know my true name

[–] [email protected] 22 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

This is why, as a native English speaker, I just never express my emotions.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

Was thinking about that .

[–] [email protected] 20 points 3 months ago (1 children)

You jest, sir, but this is the reason I purposefully got a British therapist instead of using my native language in therapy.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

I can totally relate

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago (1 children)

English is my native language. I’m reasonably fluent in some parts of life in French but I feel like if I were to try to have a deeper conversation about something like emotions I would struggle to find the right words. Is that kind of what makes it easier for you non-native speakers that are identifying with this post?

[–] tigeruppercut 4 points 3 months ago

I couldn't find the exact article I read before, but I found one talking about how processing discomfort through an L2 was less emotionally distressing than in the native lang

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/02699931.2018.1540403

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

Me and my wife and half my friends irl

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Similar here, my partner and I are mostly talking in English for non-important/silly stuff and switch to French when things said are serious/important. A way to separate real/serious from joking/sarcasm.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Makes sense: English is a completely unserious language.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Maybe nothing is real in English.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

It is, it means lack of something or anything.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

I feel this one. Things I say in a foreign language don't really have emotional weight

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I only swear in English because swearing in my own language makes it more dirty somehow . Also I only speak English online because no one else wouldn't understand shit otherwise .

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

So, this is why? I never realized, thanks for that.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

En tant qu’Américain, je peux être plus honnête émotionnellement avec moins de coûts émotionnels cuando hablo una lengua que no se llama inglés.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 months ago

I do same, when i need to abuse. It makes me feel less guilty.