It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
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Fuck. That puts a lot of things into perspective.
Someone in my family once said "I dont think you are capable of love the way normal people are" and it was incredibly hurtful. Based on the context I'm pretty sure they didn't say it to hurt me but I can't be sure. But I still spend more time trying to figure out what they meant by it than being sad or hurt that they said it.
at 2:15 there's a section on how this might make it easier for autistic people to change our minds/lives when presented with new information, and I feel like that really goes well with some of the stuff I've heard from Dr Price and others about why so many autistic people aren't cis or straight - social context matters less to us than true information
and 3:45 explains small talk in a way that finally makes me understand it 🤯🤦
2:15 also makes everything make sense with why so many people seem to react very weirdly (to me) when given new information. Like, if given new and better information, you'd change your mind (and ultimately, at least eventually, be happier for it). BUT NO ONE ACTUALLY DOES THIS. THEY'LL SAY "NO" AND START IGNORING YOU. it's always been so incredibly confusing for me. Like the backfire effect. How could it possibly be that proving to somebody they're wrong make them more confident?
Why isn't everyone autistic this would be so much easier.
Edit: ranting about the backfire effect. And everyone who explains it has a moment where they're like "but actually it makes sense because it makes them feel less secure in their position and stupid so they just have to double down to save face." like no wtf? If I felt less secure in my position, and stupid for having it, I'd change it. Because it's wrong, I know that, and I feel bad for having it. I certainly wouldn't go forward with that position in the future!
I think it's the innate herd mentality. Someone in the comments expanded on it saying that if a person above them in the social hierarchy gives them new information they will immediately accept it, with or without evidence. This is the sort of thing that critical thinking should overcome but look at the state of western education lmao. I like to say that allistics lack empathy because they replace reality with their own made up bullshit and this has caused me a lot of pain and suffering throughout my life.
allistics lack empathy
I kinda think so.
I am starting to believe that they're actually less truly empathetic than autistic people, they're just more performatively empathetic in certain social contexts, which makes them seem more empathetic to other allistics.
I'm sorry, allistics, performative??? That would never happen!!!
And everyone who explains it has a moment where they're like "but actually it makes sense because it makes them feel less secure in their position and stupid so they just have to double down to save face." like no wtf? If I felt less secure in my position, and stupid for having it, I'd change it. Because it's wrong, I know that, and I feel bad for having it.
100%
it's always been baffling to me, but if they really value how they feel over what they know, it does finally make sense
It doesn't make it seem less foolish to me, tbqh, but I guess I at least understand the why finally
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She's right and this fucks 
I will simply not incorporate this new understanding, I will instead continue to antagonise neurotypicals inadvertently cause fuck em. NTs are such nerds.
that uh, resonated more than I expected
I don;t think I'm autistic but maybe somewhere on the spectrum because wow if that isn't me, and my mom, to a T. chronically upsetting/putting off neurotypical ppl by putting the information exchange first and up front. She has a habit of asking extraordinarily blunt questions to the point of being kinda blindsiding
Have you taken the CAT-Q, which is geared towards high-masking individuals? My score on it surprised me; I expected to score somewhere in the autistic range, but I was much higher than I thought I'd be.
hahah fuck okay well
I was much higher than I thought I'd be.
yeah same.
also interesting to see the NB scores broken out. would be interested to know if the same applies to binary trans ppl
I feel like allistics often prioritise social context over feelings.
This was pretty helpful to think on. I remember times where I felt a social disconnect when I told the truth or informed about something. I wasn't trying to one-up. I just wanted to explain I understood something someone else experienced.
Or I came off as too obsessed with minutiae when I wanted to clarify something.
Same! And I really need to understand why we do things a certain way before the how of it will make sense to me or stick very well in my head.
Interesting. Thanks for sharing
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