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How insecure can you be? Everyone was ordering beers but I didn't feel like drinken, so I ordered tea. I guess my masculinity is in shambles right now.

Guys, drink whatever you want.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Make your own mint teas instead. Grow your own mint (it grows very easily and will overtake your garden if you don't pot it), add 1 part mint leaves 1 part green tea to a teapot, boiling water, steep 2-3 minutes, and you have Moroccan mint tea. Normally you should also drown it in sugar but I prefer my tea without any sugar.

It's weird what we consider to be "manly". Mint tea is a favourite in Morocco and the rest of North Africa and they had the Berber raiders and Hannibal.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Just watered my very own mint plant :)

Can't take it to a bar unfortunately. At least not to make tea.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I work in hospitality, and we actually get guests who bring their own tea leaves sometimes to our restaurants. For liability reasons we won't brew it for them, but we will provide them hot water and a teapot to do themselves if they want. Not sure anyone has brought in mint, but I imagine we would let them.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I was wrong on the proportions, from what I remember it's the usual amount of green tea (1 teaspoon per cup) and then just kinda fill the rest of the steeper with mint. I have a teapot with a bigger steeper to make 1l at a time, it's not an exact science lol. I also used to make it with just mint and it gives it more bite

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

The idea of brewing your own tea (or any food) with ingredients that you've grown yourself is just really cool to me, for some reason.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Not growing the entirety of my own food, but I do grow most all of my own herbs for cooking. Most herbs are pretty easy to grow and it's nice to know I will always have some (very) fresh herbs on hand.

Includes some mint that does quite often get used for tea.

Give it a try. Mint is really easy. Basil is also easy, and technically related to mint anyway. Even if you don't have much space, you can do those on an apartment balcony still. Bonus, mint naturally keeps away some types of insects that we normally consider pests.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

well the tea leaves might be a bit more difficult to get since tea bushes need a very specific climate to grow*

But personally having done it with mint, it's not cottagecore vibes in my case lol. I could get mint at the store and it would be most of the same (although I think I have Moroccan mint which is the best one imo and I can't always get it fresh at the store), it's just that growing it I always have leaves for my needs without needing a trip to the store, at least when it's in season lol

Think I'm gonna go make mint ice tea now though 🤔

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Real men forge their own path, never caring what those around them think.

“Ok, one mint tea please”

No not like that

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

For real. I'm 6'2 and work out 4 times a week. Even then some guys think you're not men enough if you don't tick all their silly boxes.ust be a miserable life.

Edit: not that I think those measurements are manly either. The only qualification for being manly is identifying as one.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Real ~~men~~ people forge their own path, never caring what those around them think.

“Ok, one mint tea please”

No not like that

FTFY

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I think you broke it rather than fixed it

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Just do what xi Jinping did at the Two Sessions, and order a second cup.

According to Highly Credible Western Analysts™, that's a power move.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Westerners: "Xi is making a bold power move by ordering a second cup of tea."

Xi: "This is good tea. I should get another cup."

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That is the look of a man who doesn't give a god damn fuck what any westerner thinks of him and is also about to enjoy a second cup of tea, respect

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

he's earned it

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

He's the real top Xi, that's for sure

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Me sitting at home with five mugs of tea, constantly making them one after another, am I also pulling a power move?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Depends if you have on a cool name tag like that

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

it's literally the dorkiest shit ever lol, like what the fuck is the point of drinking "manly" alcoholic drinks like beer and then sneering at like a "girly" cocktail, like come on I only need to drink like 2 or 3 of these to actually have fun while you either have to sit there drinking forever or chug your dogshit beer...

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Listen, I like beer, sour beer, hoppy beer, Belgian style beer, but at this point in my life I can't drink any of it without feeling like shit afterwards. You'll catch me ordering a Sex On The Beach, or any other sweet drink instead. That's if I'm even in the mood to drink, which I'm usually not.

If you ask me it takes more balls to order a "girly" drink then it does to order a bud light.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

This has always been the weirdest part of this kind of toxic masculinity. Being "tough enough" to not just go along with the crowd makes you a wimpy soyboy? Real men blindly do what everyone else is doing I guess.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"Free thinkers" when you don't get the diesel resin charcoal roasted flavored hard liquor

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Makes me think about a shampoo bottle I saw at my parents once. It was for men and it had a picture of an explosion on it. It was called ‘extreme shampoo’ and it smelled like ‘wood and fire’ or something like that. It had a nice smell which reminded me of the forest, but the bottle itself was just comical.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

That’s funny, because I go camping often and you shower to rid of the wood and fire smell

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I've had a similar experience before in NL. One evening at a bar I asked for an espresso (the machine was still on and functional) and the two bar women kept trying to shame me into getting a beer instead. Never went back to that place

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I just drink wine and get told similar nonsense because of it and because I don' drink beer at all.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I didn't know they served mint tea at bars.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Really? I think every bar I know of here has tea.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I order whatever drink I want, too, including non alcoholic drinks like tea. Sometimes a hot chocolate. One thing that pisses me right off is having to wait for it. I'm patient. So I don't mind waiting for it. But when I'm left waiting because I've ordered a non-alcoholic not-Diet Coke … 😡. It happens all the time. People who order after me will take priority if they order an alcoholic drink. Sometimes I've seen the barkeep actively look for someone else to serve rather than make my drink when I ask for it. It arrives eventually.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Hey we can't all be like Belgium alright ; ___ :

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Don’t worry and remember hot people drink tea.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

one big glass of soy milk, please

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You struck me as more of an oat milk person. Gotta drink your grains.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I enjoy many kinds of vegetation

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If you ever just want to skip a potential interaction, tell them you're the designated driver. You also might get your nonalcoholic beverage of choice on the house.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I mostly just shrug it off. Laugh all you want, it's not hurting me.