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Progress collage with a new favorite shot (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Hey ghosts in my machine! I promise not to spam post but I made a body progress college I wanted to share with you all. It's from the day I finally decided I was tired of how I was presenting and needed a change from around 8 years ago. It took my first weight loss transition to reach my goal and realize I still hated my mirror to finally be absolutely certain I was trans. It took another 7 years after that to know I couldn't just let it go.

It's been a worn tooth and nail journey, and I'm not where I want yet, but when I see myself now, I finally see me. I hope the same for you.

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Damn girl, you look amazing!

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 month ago

I'm trying! 🙏🏼

Thank you friend ☺️

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Is it possible to be very supportive and say you look great, and give my hopes that you get everything you want out of life, but at the same time inform you it's spelled "collage"?

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

YES!

Dammit, I really thought I got it right when I didn't get spell or grammar checked. Ah well. Guess my pictures are gonna need to go get their degree 😂

Edited (so no one knows my shame 😭😂)

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

LOL 😆

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

On behalf of all cis-het guys like me scrolling through /c/all:

Damn girl! U up? (Or something to that effect)

In all seriousness, you are drop dead GORGEOUS

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

😅😅😅

Yeah haven't had that one from a cis-het guy yet so I'm gonna dwell on it for a while if that's okay 🥹

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Another cis het guy here to affirm what he said. You're very beautiful! I'm terrible at compliments so I'll leave it at that lol

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

It's a perfect compliment ❤️

Thank you 😊

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You hair is soo cute :3

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

Eeeeeeeee! I love it so much :3

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm another member of the cishet squad. I would totally make you uncomfortable trying to chat you up. I mean this in the most complementary way possible.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

🥹 This means a lot to hear. I'd probably be flattered at the very least. Thank you for taking the time to say so.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You look great, girl!

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago

Thank you so much 😊

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You're practically glowing, honestly.. And I love your style!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm extremely picky on style 😅

I don't have much money at all, and I'm pretty much on my own so I only buy stuff I'd like to wear at work AND at home.

Obviously aside from a few items 😅

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Well you're nailing it.

That top (?) is fab, it reminds me a lot of a shirt-dress I had years ago that I really loved. It too was a cheapo find, from primark lol and also good for any occasion depending how you dress it, I love finds like that! Versatility ftw..

Obviously aside from a few items 😅

Good call 😂

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's a dress actually! My second one I've ever bought, and it was like $25 on clearance. I'm trying to figure out full body selfies but I haven't really found a way to not feel goofy in those shots. Need a selfie stick maybe.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

Oh cool, and definitely a bargain!

I avoid being documented at all costs, so I can relate to feeling goofy, and can offer no advice whatsoever lol

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Damn, that smile 🤩

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Seriously, your transformation is amazing! I'm a cishet dude so won't be going as far as yourself but your effort has inspired me to get up off my chubby arse and put in the work for the results I want.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

DO IT DUDE!!! FUCKING LETS GO!!!

I can't wait for you to reach your goals 😁😁😁

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Youre so beautiful 💗 I absolutely adore your hair!! It suits you so well girlie 😊

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago

I feel so crazy fortunate for my hair. It's my favorite thing about me (and maybe other people too 🥺👉🏼👈🏼). I try to put in effort with it and I have a good stylist but I'll admit I also have a lot of luck with how it dries and curls.

Thank you so much!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You went through a wonderful transformation! 🥰

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

It feels like yesterday sometimes and sometimes it's like a whole other life ago.

Absolutely life-changing

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (2 children)

You look so good, I'm jealous!

Thank you so much for posting the progress pictures. I'm facing losing a similar amount of weight as part of getting to where I want to be, and you give me hope.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

You can do it. Start small. Track your wins over time. It's hard but it gets easier with every win. The hardest part is your earliest wins. It stays hard but you get better at it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Same. One of these days I'll actually get around to going to the gym (riiiight after dealing with severe executive dysfunction) and knock off a good... 80ish pounds (or at least convert a good chunk of that to muscle mass instead of fat). I got relatively lean arms and thunder thighs out of genetics, it's aaaaaall torso and moobs 😅

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Holy hell what a transformation! Wow. Congratulations for finding yourself and working hard to get where you are.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Thank you. It's not been easy at all, but I've gotten better as I've gone. I'm really happy with where I am and I'm really excited for where I will be!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Damn, goals!

I never know weather this question is rude (baby trans here) so feel free to tell me to get lost.

Did you have facial surgery or is this from hrt only?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I don't personally feel it's rude? The subject matter is my medical transition progress and I think the question is relevant.

No surgery. I'm way too poor. Just the stereotypical autism-baby-face with a bit of hrt luck and smiling helps me a lot. Cheeks aren't fully there when I got RBF going.

I try to smile a lot to compensate 😅

My regime is oral estradiol, Spironolactone and progesterone (since month 6).

On the I hit 9 months hrt early this month.

Current resting face

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Thanks! This really gives me hope I might be ok without ffs as well!

(And you are gorgeous btw :3)

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

Many people are. I'd say the vast majority of people I know personally were fine without it, but I do have friends who felt it was a need.

My advice is give hrt a year and a half to two years to do it's work first and see how you feel. Take daily photos too. Really smart choice I made I think. Made it easier to start seeing differences and It's fun scrolling and watching my face change over time.

(Thank you for the compliments 🥹)

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Autism baby face? That explains so, so much. I didn't know that was a thing, but several of my trans friends are on the spectrum and all of them have very soft, youthful faces.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

Yup. It's a thing.

Been told by a few people there may be something to autism being tied to how our connective tissue develops and forms. I'm not a bioscience girl tho. I just plug people's power cords into the wall and pretend I'm smart when they praise me for fixing their computer.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

ALSO!

WELCOME TO THIS WORLD BABY TRANS FRIEND!!!

I'm excited for you! 😁

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Your more recent pictures look so much more naturally happy and less masked. You're adorable, you're powerful, and I wish you all happiness and success!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I first learned about masking when I found I had autism years ago. Being able to take off my Mask from that at the time was a liberation I'd never felt before, but it was nothing compared to taking my Masc off.

I had to rip it off of my skin. It tore horribly and hurt awfully but for the first time I got to be seen. Nothing compares to a lifetime of a mask finally being taken off.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

I know it took awhile for me to see this, but I'm glad I finally did. That's powerfully poetic imagery, your masculinity itself being a mask obscuring your true self. I'm glad you were able to tear both masks off.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You look cute! What an amazing change! Nice work finding the real you. 🥰

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Cute is a goal :3

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

... Holla holla holla.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Oh my god, incredible

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Ack! Girl, you're an absolute inspo! Fucking gorgeous!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 weeks ago

😭❤️

I kinda needed this today. Thank you for the sweet words.