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[–] [email protected] 132 points 1 month ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 51 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Watch your fucking mouth, there’s asshole kids on this shit.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Ah yes. Point well taken SatansMaggotyCumFart.

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[–] [email protected] 82 points 1 month ago (2 children)

English is my second language, and culturally where I'm from swearing is pretty normal and nobody gives a fuck anyway.

It's only swearing because at some point someone decided it was bad language, and if you pay close attention, a lot of them go with "taboo" topics like sex and religious items. And then everyone proceeds to substitute them like fuck/fudge, shit/shoot, bitch/bench which IMO, you might as well have said it, everyone knows that what you were thinking.

Language is language and sometimes a good choice of colorful expletives is what drives the meaning. Getting offended by swears is a sign of fragility of the mind.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago

nobody gives a fuck

OOOOOOOOHHHH!!!!! You said a bad word!!! I'm telling mom!!!

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[–] [email protected] 61 points 1 month ago (6 children)

Swearing is actually normal for all people. Any word can be classified as a "swear" or "bad" word. That's how language works. There is nothing wrong with using a word that is deemed a cuss word. The actual "bad" part is always the context the word is used in. If you smacked your foot into a chair accidentally and you called the chair a Bastard, you used the expletive correctly. But if you walked into work one morning and walked by your boss and said to him, "Good morning you Bastard.", that's going to get you in trouble. The context matters.

You can make any word a cuss word in the context you use it. You can ask a person if they like Bananas, "Are you a banana eater?". Or you can accuse a person, "What kind of a sick banana eater are you? What is wrong with you?", 'banana eater' is now a bad phrase/thing.

Context in language always matters, regardless of the taboo of a word/phrase.

Words only have power over you if you let them. Language is to be used, enjoyed and laughed at.

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[–] [email protected] 43 points 1 month ago

Because I don't let prudes tell me what I can and can't say unless they're paying me.

[–] [email protected] 43 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Because words have different weight for different people. I feel like Americans are so sensitive about words like "fuck" (and many other words). Here in the Netherlands I grew up with much more liberal use of swear words. So to me it's way less harsh to say "fuck this rain" or something, it's just a way to communicate my feelings about the rain, just like I'd say "kutweer" in Dutch. Saying it in a more eloquent way, i.e. "this rain is pretty suboptimal" would not accurately convey my feelings.

[–] HeavyRaptor 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Americans are so sensitive about everything...

[–] scoobford 10 points 1 month ago

Except violence, supposedly.

I'm american, so I obviously wouldn't know. Overseas travel is fuckin expensive....

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[–] [email protected] 38 points 1 month ago (1 children)

From a historical perspective, it's stranger that swearing isn't normal for some people; it seems to be a universal feature of human languages throughout history and around the world.

The exact swear / taboo words vary of course, but in general it does seem like just about every culture ever has had and used swear words.

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Because I'm Australian, swearing is my religion

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago

Oi, cunt, hope you have a great fucking day!

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 month ago

I've read that swearing is the sign of an honest person.

Studies have shown that swearing makes dealing with pain easier.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 month ago (2 children)

As I understand it, shit, piss, and fuck were common words in Old English. When the French-speaking Normans invaded the Anglo-Saxons, they made the people and their language lower class, crude and dirty. Defecate, urinate, and fornicate were substituted as the proper way to speak. This was a way to continue oppressing a conquered and occupied group of people. These views have persisted for hundreds of years and been adopted by various groups over time. Something to consider when you find yourself viewing the words others use as crude.

Based on this history, you might also see why saying "pardon my French" is ironic as fuck.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

Most large towns had a street where prostitutes gathered, often called Grope Cunt Lane

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gropecunt_Lane

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 month ago (2 children)

It’s even weirder when people self-censor memes , posts, and whatnot. Like F*CK. You’re allowed to swear on the internet, people!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It seems to me this became a thing when social media algorithms started downranking content with profanity in it. It's weird when people do it elsewhere.

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Who the fuck is asking and why the fuck should I care if they care?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

Don't be such a fucking twat, you cunt. /s

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 month ago

They're good words, bret

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 month ago (6 children)

Fun fact! Swearing actually reduces pain perception, thus increasing pain tolerance. There are scientific benefits to swearing.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago

That's fuckin awesome!

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 month ago

What the fuck do you mean?

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Why not? Why is it not normal for you? Science shows it reduces stress. Lol

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago

You give the word power and meaning by viewing it certain way. To me cuss words have no power they are meaningless. equivalent to a simple filler word. Others around you might give power to cussing, but then why is it your fucking problem that they choose to be simps for a word?

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago

Why the fuck wouldn't they shitting be?

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago

Part of it must be upbringing. I couldn't bring myself to even say the words hate and stupid because they were treated as just as bad as fuck, but since I've moved out and live with a woman who casually swears, it's rubbed off on me.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I'm from New Jersey, it's weird if I don't swear. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Because life fucking sucks, unless I'm in a church I'll swear all the fuck I want, life is tortuous enough already, let me have that. And right now I'm angry.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago (12 children)

This question is exactly backwards. Everything should be normal to say unless there's a specific reason NOT to say it. So OP, what is your specific reason for thinking people SHOULDN'T say swear words?

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago

because there's nothing wrong with it

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago

Because we grew up poor.

Laws that turn swearing into legal liability are a form of class warfare.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Where is swearing not normal? I don’t live in a preschool. It’s the 90’s. We have internet and everything now. I can say the “fuck” word.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Some people are sailors. Others are not.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Technically not a sailor, but I've worked on ships enough for it to have a noticeable effect on my English vocabulary.

STORY TIME

15ish years ago I was on a ship in Brazil on a steady rotation. It was a two vessel operation, and I had to pay the other ship a visit for some technical work.
Onboard there was this petite older catholic lady who showed me around where my cabin was, where to find linen and all that. She spoke English with a heavy accent, but it was fine, and I had no problem understanding her. It quickly became apparent that she'd learned most of her English in this environment. Think about the accent of Conzuela from Family Guy: "...and here is the bathroom for when you have a massive shit." Those words came as unexpected as a suckerpunch and I really struggled to keep a straight face.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago

As others have mentioned, for me I sometimes use it as just filler (part of natural language). Alternatively, I can use it to add emphasis or to exaggerate.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Every time I see a thread posted by this user I grab my popcorn.

Generally, the internet (aka the rest of the world) is too harsh for this person's devotion to Christianity. That's like 99% of these threads.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (5 children)

There's nothing wrong with a devotion to Christianity. My mother gives sermons and she's one of the coolest people I know. But that's not what this is.

This is a person whose worldview was shaped by conservative values presented as Christian values. They see a world that doesn't fit what they were taught, and they try to understand it as best they can. It's a constant back and forth on whether to accept the world as God designed it or to try and block out parts that conservatives don't like.

Case in point: The bible doesn't say shit about swearing. It talks about insulting, with an example being "fool", but nothing about swearing.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I don't swear in my native language (Romanian), but I do in English. I can't explain why...

My friends gifted me a T-shirt that said "I can't say fuck in Romanian" for my birthday a few years ago.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago
[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Why is it not for some people? Serious question - seems like a few mixed in here and there would be the norm but I’m not sure tbh. But just based on movies, tv, etc, that’s what I’m accustomed to hearing. And real life too.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

Why do some people hide their view on things behind rhetorical questions? People, man. There's a billion different ways to people it up. People man ...Being all different n stuff!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Swearing is viewed as a bad thing mainly because of religion, particularly anything puritanical. It's the equivalent of taking the lords name in vain for some people. When I was in 3rd grade, I said dammit after dropping my coat instead of putting it on a hanger. I learned that word really early cause my mother had been using it since she was 3. My friend heard me and told the teacher, a nun, who pulled me aside and said cursing is never, ever, okay and that it's taking the lords name in vain even if you don't say Jesus or God or whatever. Also said Dammit was one of the worst ones.

So I agree with others here. The question should not be, "Why is cursing normal for some people?" It should be the opposite. Curse words are just words. They don't have power like religion states. They're just words. To whomever doesn't curse, stop letting just words have power over you. They don't fucking matter.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

Fucked if I know.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

They are used to it and if you try you can get used to it too.

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