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For example, when I'm at work I don't feel like it, or if I do I can hold it back without any problem, but when I get home the urge seems to be uncontrollable and impossible to hold back.

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[–] [email protected] 83 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I remember there was actually a scientific article written about this. If I recall, it’s something about your brain/subconscious knowing that you are close to a toilet

[–] [email protected] 30 points 3 months ago (1 children)

It's not just about being close to any toilet though, specifically the one at home is different. Coming home from a trip and I'll need to go to the bathroom even though I've had plenty of good access the whole time.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

It probably has something to do with the guarantee of access mixed with the urgency and relaxed retention that comes with being in a comfortable environment. It’s unlikely to be any one thing, but, instead, a combination of factors.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Can we use that ability to track down hidden facilities that contain a toilet (say, in the desert)?

[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 months ago

Unfortunately this method only works if you already know where the toilet is.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

Men who stare at toilets

[–] [email protected] 50 points 3 months ago (3 children)

You go when (1) biologically needed, and (2) it is convenient.

Stress hormones suppress the desire at work but at home you feel relaxed 😎.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 months ago (1 children)

You're going an awful lot of assuming thinking I'm not stressed at home....

[–] [email protected] 20 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

So do you have the opposite happen to you, where the urge increases as you get closer to work? :-P

Edit: pulls out marker, well looks like I need to make another edit here then, from home to work...

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago (2 children)

It’s true because I have a bidet.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Tell your work to put in a bidet? Yeah, that'll happen /s :-D.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

God I wish.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago
[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Trouble is I'm stressed when I'm rushing home because there's trouble brewing in my colon.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

But in that case, wouldn't you be as equally stressed if that happened while at work?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

ok so i just need to check out Slack and i can (and pretty much will have to) hold it for next hour or so

[–] [email protected] 27 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Because you subconsciously recognise that you have entered your territory, therefore you must mark it.

Edit : I have no idea, this is a good question btw.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

Also colloquially known as “ass radar”

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Certainly the "uncontrollable" part seems to match, at least.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 months ago

presumably you instinctively know that you're in a wholly safe place and there is no excuse not to do it anymore. We're really not made to suppress elimination for a long time like that, in nature the only reason not to get the business done is because you gotta walk away from camp or because you're chased by a lion, and neither of those tend to take a long time..

we should really be glad we're at all able to hold it in as long as we do

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Butthole detects proximity to safe toilet.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

i call this my bgps in the car so my kids have no idea what im talking about.

"Honey the bgps is engaged, buckle up"

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Familiarity breeds continence.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago

The Joann Fabric and Crafts near me stopped offering a restroom to customers during Covid and never went back (understandable). But knowing that I can’t go while I’m there has created a situation where nothing makes me need to take a shit more urgently than browsing fabric and craft supplies. Luckily there is a Target next door.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

This isn't too hard to explain based on everything I know about human behaviour. Your brain has probably just carved a very big pathway in it for all the times you've pooped in your own home. You can associate anything that rewards your body with endorphins with anything else that provides a strong memory or reaction. See pavlov

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

Cuz you know there's a bathroom there and it's a safe one.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

Having stress related bowel issues, I can assure you that you are in luck that it works that way for you and not the other way around like it seems to work for me.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

Availability. You're more likely to go potty when there's a toilet, you're more likely to eat when there's food, etc.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

I've observed this multiple times with number 1.

As to anyone, it has happened to me many times over the course of my life, that after having to hold it for too long, the last minutes, seconds, end up a total rush against the time. There's always this dramatic arc of making it just for the last second.

But I asked myself: if the urgency was merely function of the continuous kidney/bladder function then statistically, why would I almost always make it just by the lastest milisecond, and I would certainly lose the battle if my bathroom was 2 cm further. Clearly this is risky, esp. considering that sometimes things happen like the bathroom happens to be occupied or you can't find your key or your zipper is stuck or something dumb, robbing you of that critical few seconds.

I've learned that to save myself from the unnecessary drama and rush, I can actually sort of convince myself that there is extra, say 10m between me and my bathroom. Just try to "lie" to my body a bit, about how far the right place is, or make up some vague extra steps as necessary to enable truly safe disposal. And it almost always gives me an extra few minutes.

It's certainly one of those things when the signaling around the body is much more strategic than we would think.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Probably as simple as muscle memory.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

I just pretent that home is actually still hours away and this is just a short stop somewhere. Usually works...

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

Closer proximity to a mop probably.