Leave. I did. Best decision ever.
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Where did you go?
Sounds like you already have a way out. Move to SE Asia with the partner. Convert your savings into a rural property. Get some chickens maybe a cow and start growing mangos and avocadoes.
I think it became a lot more probable since she got her first medical bill from a minor injury, while having insurance, $900. Paying $1500 a month for an apartment with college students yelling next door and a homeless encampment in the woods next to the building, management doesn't fit anything when it breaks. Spending $100 for two people for curry and icecream. Needing to own a car to do anything.
I feel this shit in my bones.
today I've been daydreaming about buying one of those decrepit rural farmsteads in rural Japan and fixing it up, while taking a vow of silence and only interacting with other people through hand signs and written notes for the rest of my life
Most people who say this can't go a day without talking to at least 3 people lol. But yeah, I feel ya. It would be rough for the first few months since I am basically addicted to being online at this point.
yeah I don't know if I could manage it. maybe if I just vowed to never speak English again
Can't your partner take you back home?
It feels like that might be where things are heading. I do much better in the colder climates though, and it's only getting hotter, but I might get some psychic relief even if I'm sticky and pouring sweat and have a constant headache lol.
I get that. I'm a cold one myself. I like my apartment around 10 degrees cause blankets are better than a stuffy apartmen heat. However, I would consider how.the temperature is one single problem that you can do things yourself to overcome. Here the problems are much more myriad than staying a comfortable temperature and way harder to personally handle. You've got a partner who can help get you in, I'm hoping you've been learning the language from said partner cause trying to learn your partner's first language as well.as you can when they've bothered to learn yours just kinda feels like something that'd happen in most decent relationships, you'd at least know more phrases than most. If you're useful otherwise than I'd move. I mean useful aside from learning the language cause like...don't move to a poorer country and then not contribute and I do hold a double standard regarding immigration where I totally get if whatever south eastern Asian country you're referring wouldn't want you if you wouldn't contribute. It's a double standard that isn't hypocritical at all, why would they want some American who wants to flee the mess they've made now that it's come home to roost if they're not gonna be useful? There's a difference between that and American not taking people from poorer countries. Double standards are occasionally fine.
Check out Suriname in South America. Sounds sweet.
Just watched some videos about it, sounds extremely culturally diverse.