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Weekly Improvement Thread - Nov 17th (hexbear.net)

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Hello comrades and welcome to the third improvement megathread of November! bonfire Two more weeks to go, plenty of time to kick some ass!

As usual, some discussion ideas:

Do you want to share something you've done in the previous week? Everything counts, nothing is too small.
Do you have any goals or plans for next week?
Do you have any streaks? For example, "sober for one day." Feel free to post your streak every day in this thread.
If you don't have a continuous streak, did you manage to abstain from something for a day or more?
Did you come across some useful information or resource that might help others?

Poster caption: Unite to achieve an even greater victory!

Tuanjie qilai, zhengqu gengdade shengli!

团结起来，争取更大的胜利!

Good luck with your goals! solidarity

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

lets-fucking-go I got a job, first official day is monday. Gonna be picking weeds mostly but it's honest work. Got some pain meds ready and gonna try my best to head to the gym after work to keep my other goal of a pull up rat-salute-2

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I got a job, first official day is monday.

cheer

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

It was real good, paid to touch grass big-cool

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

Over 10,000 steps every single day this week!
Ate real food most days, and slightly less awful food the rest
Hung out 1 on 1 for the first time with a new-ish friend which I think went well
Forgot a couple minor errands
Cheated like 3 days where I drank 1 cup of coffee

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

roll call based-department

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If anybody else wants to be added to the roll call, just let me know hexbear-specter

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I have managed to go a whole week without biting my nails, longest streak since my first kid was born. I'm not sure if this means I'm full of willpower or have lost all will even for biting my nails...

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Keep it up. I hopefully your consciously/unconsciously addressing all the things that make your nail bite.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Did some meditation, reading and running this week. Bought some new books.

What I learned this week: Amla is the the most antioxidant-packed uncommon spice. You can buy powdered amla in a health food store and add it to your oatmeal or smoothie. I started doing it this week. It's a super easy way to get a bunch of antioxidants.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

the-more-you-know

Might have to pick some up

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

antioxidant in the morning doesn't sound like a bad move.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Gone to the gym everyday since I got a new membership

::: spoiler weight loss/diet/exercise stuff Back of the napkin math, I'm at least around -1000kcals under resting metabolic rate at the same time I'm burning at least 1000 more than I usually do

Idk if I'm hypomanic or what but I have like no appetite and eating enough/hitting my macros feels like a chore

A lot of my meals have been soy-cutie +protein powder slurry

I'm making (re)newbie gainz quick and I'm just kinda dreading when I'm gonna burn out on this pace

For now though, I'm fixated on hitting various milestones and have lost two notches on my belt already in a week

Most of my lifts are frustrating and disappointing to me now, but I wasn't going regularly since early 2020 so that's to be expected, and I'm trying to not fixate on Number Of Plates and just find good working weight for 5 sets that's challenging but not "oh shit I'm dying/gonna injure myself"

I still think I'm looking terrible, but at least I'm trending in a positive direction now

lady-doge

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I still think I'm looking terrible, but at least I'm trending in a positive direction now

That's what it's all about. It's corny to say because of the stupid self-help industry but getting 1% better really does stack up over time. Keep at it!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

lea-bounce

My tummy is getting smaller and my legs are getting toned

I need to program more hip thrusts and lunges for butt

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

Same shit mostly from me been busy this weekend helping my partner out

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I missed a few of these:

One of my leg wrists hurt really bad a month ago so between that and the weather I haven't been running much, however I've been doing music a lot when not tired which is good.

The problem is that I've been tired a lot

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

leg wrists

Not trying to sound like a jerk in case you're doing a lil' goof but if you're ESL and were unsure of the English word for that body part, it's "ankle"

(leg wrist sounds more fun tbh though)

Congrats on the music stuff! I need to practice my instruments more and finding the time for it has been rough lately

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

Gym: On point
School: On point
Money: Broke
Book reading: On point
Social interaction: on the decline
Actively trying to show up to my own life in every i can: On point

Highlight of my week: I got a solid 20 hours of game development in.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 weeks ago

stress, mental health improvement, near meltdown, sobriety

Had the kind of day yesterday where every inanimate object and technological gizmo were conspiring against me personally

Anything on a shelf fell off, anything I looked at wrong fell over, every app crashed or froze, Bluetooth wouldn't pair, a broom broke off in the bristle head thing so I couldn't even just replace the stick part without chiseling out the end of the old broken stick, etc

Just exhausting tedious stressful bullshit non stop

Still managed to make myself go to the gym and had a relatively good leg day

Absolutely gassed, walking funny, finally get to the shower

The shower curtain bar fucking falls off and on my head, don't have my glasses on, can't see shit to fix it, water still running and getting on the floor, just a shit show

ALMOST lose my fucking shit and start throwing everything and breaking shit (more)

Manage to do DBT self dialogue shit after I loudly curse a couple times and Velma without her glasses/McGyver my way out of that bullshit

Almost road rage at a dumbass not using their blinker on the way home and get pissed at my shitmobile's screechy fan belt for the heater/AC trying to defog the windows and punch the horn a couple times

Didn't lose control

Old me definitely would have and this would've made me go on an 80 proof 1.75L nosedive for a couple days, stayed dry this time

One day at a time nyet

The fuckin' way she goes bud aubrey-pain

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

Been going to the gym three times a week for the past few months. Getting real close to my first big milestone: 5 reps of 75kg squats and 5 reps of 100kg deadlifts. Yesterday I managed 4 reps of 95kg deadlifts before failing. Gotta remember to eat more food, that's the hardest part...