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[–] [email protected] 15 points 9 months ago (2 children)

What's a depression anthem? I never expected sufferers of depression to feel like singing a theme song to it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago (5 children)

It's a song that speaks to your flavour of depression. Makes you feel like someone feels the exact same way you do. That in turn makes you feel sane. Like you're heard. Even understood.

Over time, songs (or movies or other things) can become a ritual - you feel awful, listen to the song, eventually you come out the other side as the depressive episode fades. Then the next time it happens you associate the song with your recovery. So over time it becomes What You Do when you Feel That Way.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Depression is a mess, it can have lots of symptoms. Same as antidepressants kek.

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[–] arthur 15 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (2 children)

It depends on what you mean.

A single song: Hurt - Jonny Cash

Playlist to feel that:

  • Pergunta Urgente - Frejat
  • Broken Heart - White Lion
  • Hurt - Jonny Cash
  • Shake It Out - Florence & The Machine
  • Best Thing I Never Had - Beyonce
  • Dos Margaritas - Herbert Viana
  • Depois - Marisa Monte

To recover from that:

  • Ain't no grave - Jonny Cash
  • Where Angels Fear to Fly - Battle Beast
  • Hurt - Jonny Cash
  • Fire in Bone - The Killers
  • Semana que Vem - Pitty
  • Life Won't Wait - Ozzy Osbourne
  • Broken Heart - White Lion
  • Temporal - Pitty
  • O Poeta EstΓ‘ Vivo - BarΓ£o Vermelho
  • Could Have Been Me - The Struts
  • This Time - Guano Apes
  • Spirit Never Die - Masterplan
  • Sem Parar - Gabriel o Pensador
  • Tente Outra Vez - BarΓ£o Vermelho
  • Carry On - Angra
  • Levanta e Anda (feat. Rael) - Emicida
  • What a Wonderful World - Joey Ramone
  • Rising Fire - Firewind
  • Let Me Hear You Scream - Ozzy Osbourne
  • Heavy Metal Never Dies - Iron Savior
  • Born to Survive - Myrath
  • Amnesia - Red Sun Rising
  • Dance - Myrath
  • Freak Like Me - Halestorm
  • Where My Heart Will Take Me - Russel Watson
  • Saga Cega - RAPadura
  • Farol - Supercombo
  • I Like It - Lacuna Coil
  • Beyond the Burning Skies - Battle Beast
  • Reason to Believe - Arch Enemy
  • Moving On - Jimmy Cliff
  • Conselho - Almir Guineto
  • Unstoppable - Sia
  • A Beautiful Life - Dorothy
  • Nothing is Forever - Iron Savior

This second playlist is named "Keep Walking". The first one, translated, could be "wheel's bottom".

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

Honestly hurt is my go to song when I’m feeling like shit.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Where My Heart Will Take Me

JONATHAN ARCHER INTENSIFIES

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Down in a Hole - Alice in Chains, from the unplugged album. Just such a raw song.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Yes, those harmonies are rough!

That was an exceptional performance. MTV unplugged was a great era

[–] [email protected] 10 points 9 months ago

The Cure, Disintegration

[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

The Great Below -- Nine Inch Nails. (About 5 months in 2001 while addicted to Everquest).

The Beginning is End is the Beginning -- Smashing Pumpkins (this version: https://youtu.be/0fDZD46IZ5Q?si=CyfMtrWL7YbtsEs7) (during my undergrad thesis crunch time crisis circa 2009)

There's more but these are good examples.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago (3 children)

Roads by Portishead.

She knows. She gets it.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

This is probably the best answer I've seen. Watching them build the song over the OK Computer tour when you were sure they were going to implode... It hits just right.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

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How to Disappear Completely - Radiohead

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Mine is for a very specific kind of depression that's really more of a vibe of melancholic regret and realization of self limitations which breeds a strange, nearly apathetic anxiety. The Devil And God Are Raging Inside Me by Brand New (full album) just picks at a scab that you know probably isn't healthy but feels satisfying to indulge.

For existential dread, Dark Side of the Moon by Pink Floyd hits way different now than when I was young. Especially the songs Time and Great Gig In The Sky.

For depression depression, I couldn't be bothered to listen to any music. "Music is for winners" is kinda the mindset. Not helpful, but depression is a motherfucker and it's almost like self-inflicted emotional abuse when you're already vulnerable. You feel miserable and convince yourself that you deserve misery, so all is right in the world. It fucking sucks and I hope that if this comment causes anything in anybody's brain to light up, saying "hey wait a minute, is that not normal?", then please invest in yourself and spend some time with a therapist, take more vitamin D, and try to do what you can to get yourself to a place where those feelings are just memories that you can mention on Lemmy in hopes of helping others the same way that you needed help.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

Dark Side is such a good album. Great Gig in the Sky never resonated with me as a kid but now it’s a whole different story.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

The Devil and God Are Raging Inside Me is such a good album. In some ways I hate listening to it because I know it's not helping me but at the same time everything about it is just perfect

[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

It's not really a single song for me, it really depends on how depressed I am and whether I want to dive deeper into it (which really helps a lot sometimes) or make myself feel better.

Dive-in (including, but not limited to):

  • The album Spiderland by Slint is pretty much full of depression songs for me, gloomy and full of dread. Don, Aman and Washer in particular are very hard hitting for me.

  • F#A#∞ by Godspeed You! Black Emperor has similar vibes but is a lot more dystopian and pessimistic. Ever since hearing East Hastings in 28 Days Later it's been my favourite song on the album.

Feel better (including, but not limited to):

  • Everybody Hurts by R.E.M.; I normally don't like this kind of songs but this one just feels honest and sincere which I can appreciate, plus Michael Stipe just has a great voice.
  • Down Under by Men At Work; Pretty much the polar opposite of the post-punk/-rock songs mentioned above. I really want to move to Australia one day and this song reminds me of that goal.
  • Happiness/The Gondola Man by Elliott Smith; just a nice song and I really like Elliott's voice.
[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Nine Inch Nails album With Teeth. Every Day is Exactly the Same, Only, and Right Where it Belongs.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

This by far my favourite album of theirs. Every one a banger. Especially those you listed.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Oof, great album, especially after life hits you hard.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

The Wall is a special album for me, usually makes want to kill myself so I have to carefully pick the moments I listen to it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

These songs will always make me cry when I'm down in the dumps

  • Liability by Lorde
  • All I Want by Kodaline
  • Thursday by Jess Glynne
  • Heavy by Linkin Park ft. Kiiara
[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

On GP - Death Grips

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

Suite: Judy Blue Eyes by Crosby, Stills, and Nash (and sometimes Young). Also, Wooden Ships, same band. Four Way Street is an outstanding album full of heavy hitters

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I've got a playlist, "Everything sucks but that's ok". This Year by The Mountain Goats is usually a solid pick. It's wistful and defiant without being too sweet.

Misanthropic Drunken Loner by Days N Daze is bleak with a wry smile.

Nausea by Jeff Rosenstock.

I got so tired of discussing my future I started avoiding the people I love Evenings of silence and mornings of nausea Shake and sweat and I can’t throw up

And if things are starting to get a little better Good As It Gets by Little Hurt is great. It is incredibly catchy.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

Stone Sour - Bother

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

Deerhunter - helicopters

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago (2 children)
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[–] anothermember 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Daniel Johnston - Cold Hard World

What I listen to when I'm depressed and want to be, not the best song to lift you out of it.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

LDLHA‐IBCSYWA by Twiztid

When my dog died I’d listen to it and cry a ton.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

Mostly Leaf Ellis from Sorority Noise

[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

Broken, by Sentenced.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Desperados Under the Eaves (but really, lots of Warren Zevon songs)

That's the Way the World Goes Round (John Prine)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Lorde - Liability

Hits that slow, mellow, sad music tone cravings with heavy hitting lyrics.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Owen's Theme from Torchwood. Not an amazing show, but the music was written and composed by Ben Foster & Murray Gold who brought us all the haunting music from the new Dr. Who series. The descending pattern, combined with Owen's own tragic story is one of the most indulgent depressing songs I've ever heard.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Lately, its been Oni by Swersvlt. The mood of just staring miserably into space wile zoning out.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Album or song? Because for me, they both kinda blurred together when I was at my worst. That being said, I'd suggest the album Tomorrow is nearly yesterday and everyday is stupid by Crywank (UK). I listened and related so much to this album at one point that it's actually difficult for me to listen to anymore.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

No room to live, and no room to die / Hell is a kettle with a concrete sky.

Life in a big city in the developing world. Makes you hard like hunger, sharp like regret.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

My go-to song for turning into a sobbing mess on the floor is Sting (feat. Ray Chen) - What Could Have Been. Hits very hard.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Might as well just ask what my Recap is:

  • All We Ever Wanted Was Everything - Bauhaus
  • New Dawn Fades - Joy Division
  • The Last Thing - Lebanon Hanover
  • Autonomy - Boy Harsher
  • Ghosts Again - Depeche Mode
  • Anhedonia - Chelsea Wolfe & Emma Ruth Rundle
  • Various Methods of Escape - Nine Inch Nails
  • Turn Those Clapping Hands into Angry Fists - Against Me!
  • Lost in the Supermarket - The Clash
  • 6:45 - Firewater
  • The Man on the Burning Tightrope - Firewater (the whole album, not just the song)
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[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Doomed by I Prevail

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

i'm so tired - fugazi. this song has accompanied almost every depression breakdown i can remember.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

How to Disappear Completely by Radiohead

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

Electric Wizard - Saturnine

A black sun rises everyday / Shadows cross my path as if to say / "Change your life, change your ways, look up to the sky" / Tomorrow'll soon be here then time to die

This is some loud stoner/doom metal. Cheesy? sure. Self indulgent? Absolutely. But when the mood strikes it hits the spot every time

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Have been too depressed for too many decades. Lost the ability to enjoy music. Miss it, but anytime I try it feels contrived and I hear people from my past deriding my selections for various reasons.

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