[-] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

This is very true, though I don't really care how the family gets destroyed, I don't want to have a destroyed family at this point in my life right now because I need their support in other ways, so if I can avoid pulling the pin on a series of events I know my father will choose to react poorly to, I want to save myself that stress.

I know my mental health could not handle a family break down right now.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

That would be breaking and entering, and theft, and I also can't be certain he even has a copy at his house, I also need to get it witnessed and notorised for my application, which is harder to do stealthily with my disabilities.

I do not want to break the law in order to get a passport of the country I'm a citizen of.

My mother and he are long divorced.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago

Well not if you strip it from all context and the nuance of OPs specific word choice.

Because I could tell a story about my Turkish co-worker that ends like:

"my co-worker of specific race is doing dodgy shit and it's so harmful for the whole community that he's doing this, especially with how much anti-ethnic group hate is going around, he's giving everyone a bad name and I'm worried his behaviour as an individual aashole who happens to be race is going to start a spree of hate crimes against others who aren't doing anything wrong, because most people aren't, my co-worker is"

And I would argue that this story is fundamentally different from just leaving it as "my Turkish co-worker is doing dodgy stuff".

[-] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

I'm sorry you're dealing with that mate, that honestly sucks, but at least couples therapy and coparenting isn't a uniquely cishet experience, so you've got community to draw on for support wherever you go, best of luck.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

I'm trying to figure out what we're noticing at all.

Can I not see the problem because I'm too British?

[-] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

In Australia the biggest brand, and therefore the name we all call them is "zooper dooper".

Litteraly could not name another brand, I genuinely don't think I've seen a competitor for zooper dooper in Australia (not counting black & gold because that's not exactly a brand, or squelch, who do the fruit juice version, as it's a different product).

It's strange how zooper dooper are in an entirely unique class of frozen product here. Everything else could arguably be called "an icey pole" but zooper dooper is its own thing somehow. (same as sunny boy, that was its own thing, I miss sunny boy!)

[-] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

I don't think a stereotype can ever be constructive because it will always involve the need to be restrictive and limiting in order to be a stereotype.

I guess we need to question who benefits from the constructive stereotype.

"drivers can't see you" is constrictive for pedestrians, and also drivers, but it's not constrictive to the graffiti tagger who is trying to go unseen by passing cars (not that a tagger is being constructive in the first place)

[-] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago

what sets these two apart is that a bikepacker won't always have to plan for accommodation in advance. A cyclist with a trailer will never.

Am I having a stroke before I even read the main article?

Of all the ways you could structure this line, I feel like the author needlessly went with the most cumbersome.

[-] [email protected] 31 points 1 week ago

My dad and my brother both have passports and travel regularly.

I can't get a passport because my dad refuses to give me legal access to his birth certificate to prove that one of my parents was a citizen when I was born.

Why? Because according to the him, the government shouldn't need that information from our family, so he refuses on principal.

I can't get a passport without that document.

I can try and take my dad to small claims court, but I don't have the money for that, my relationship with my dad is civil and functional aside from this one issue, and getting lawyers involved will destroy the family, all I want is a passport.

He needs a psychiatrist, not a lawyer. Because he makes no sense.

There isn't really enough advice or support out there for children of whack job idiots.

[-] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

A "barn door attitude" is a idiom. I've only ever heard it to mean that you can't keep your opinions together and they're an open and paradoxical mess. Not sure what it means in other contexts.

[-] [email protected] 70 points 2 weeks ago

The lyrics on Spotify play along/highlight as the song plays so you can read along in time with the song.

This is actually a vital accommodation for the hard of hearing and partially Deaf because we can often hear/feel the beat and sometimes the melody, but we don't know exactly where in the song were up to because the tune of all the versus sounds the same, or vocal breaks of "ooooooh, lalala" can be mistaken for the start of a new line of lyrics.

So if you're just reading along with a static page of lyrics, it takes a lot of mental energy to figure out what's happening with the song, especially if it's a new song you're discovering.

We've had static lyric sheets for decades, you'd unfold the sleeve in your record and try to read along as you listened, never 100% sure you were doing it right unless a fully hearing friend was there to point at the words and be your version of the bouncing ball.

So to have this technology that almost completely solves this problem for a vulnerable community... Then to put it behind a pay wall despite the fact that Deaf people are more likely to be underemployed and socially disadvantaged than the general hearing populous is just callous.

Our experience of music is fundamentally different to hearing people, and yet Spotify will charge us the same rate for a sub par experience.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

Yes and no, if you scambait hard enough your number can eventually be added to a blacklist for larger scam organisations that bought your data for use in multiple scam attempts.

In my experience that has really cut down on the calls.

In 2020 the department of human services accidentally posted my personal phone number on a list of support services for people experiencing housing or food insecurity. This number was then circulated by every major news source in my state. I couldn't change my number at the time because I had no legal ID (still don't... Can't figure out how to get ID without ID, but I have a new number now at least) at first I didn't really notice the ratio of spam calls to genuine calls for the wrong number (ie, people calling my number because they needed housing/food) . I just remember getting 40+ calls a day at many stages.

But as the actual number for the food relief service was circulated, I eventually stopped getting genuine calls and I was getting 3-5 scam calls every single day.

After a year of scam baiting, I was getting 2 a week.

Now, I'll do something online that requires sharing my current number, within a few hours I get a scam call because my data has been sold, but I bait the heck out of that first call and I usually don't receive any further calls which suggest my number was blacklisted by a larger scam organisation, and I won't be hassled until my data is sold again as a new item.

It's hard to avoid getting your number on scam lists when the largest health insurance company, and the second largest telecommunications company in my country both had major data breaches where millions of customers identifying information was accessed and sold to scammers....

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