EpicKebabEater

joined 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 37 points 5 days ago (4 children)

"Guys please just vote for the blue jester instead of the red jester, if you don't the red jester will definitely make the king kill more peasants." you-are-a-serf

[–] [email protected] 55 points 1 week ago

"refugees" who were expelled

Are you hearing yourself?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

ebook-hunter.org

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

This has to be the weirdest thing I've ever complained about.

To be fair, this also has to be the weirdest design choices I've seen. Seems very sussy.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

They also did this to Elliot Page. They think he was forcibly transed by "the elites" and then detransitioned into a man recently lol.

[–] [email protected] 44 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I remember someone I was talking to using it as an example of why trans bad. Keep in mind that we live in the other end of the globe, I felt some part of my soul die seeing that bullshit come here.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

You should delete the "?=" and onward.

[–] [email protected] 40 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (4 children)

Basically, the link has a part at the end that doesn't do anything on the end of the user but lets the site keep track of which users came from the link you took. You can remove it and the only difference is that the site won't know they came because you shared something with them.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

I seem to have a nack for finding trans folk streaming games I like.

I wish I also had that, only trans gamers I follow are Mayro and Shayy.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago

Rhino beetles are so cool, imagine having a huge horn.

Big bug

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Houdini and Doyle - This show really does not give a shit about the real dead people it portrays. It's not like either Houdini or Sir Doyle are hard to learn about, the writers just didn't care at all. I guess you could say some things like the change of dates are just artistic license but they portray Houdini as an atheist(he had to explain in A Magician Among The Spirits that he was religious, just didn't believe spirits interacted with the living world) and tie it into his mother's death. They also portray him as a slutty bachelor(dude was married at the time) and speculate on his relationship with his father(wtf). Milder problem is that Sir Doyle is portrayed by a twink, he was fairly consistently jacked throughout his life.

It's also apparently incredibly boring. I tried to get multiple friends to watch it and they don't care about either of the real people and die from boredom. Everybody I've tried to refused to watch after episode 3 max.

 

I'm not sure if this is the best place but I don't know where else I could talk about something like this. I know that my style of masculinity is toxic but I've never gotten good advice on how to overcome it as a trans man.

The assumption that trans men don't have toxic masculinity because "they got socialized as women" is a common one in trans spaces and not only does it not apply to me, the implication that trans men are softer men pisses me off and digs me deeper.

Lore time: I internalized masculine norms throughout my isolated childhood. I knew and insisted I was a boy from an early age and my behaviour got me isolated and bullied by my female peers. I was also mistreated a lot for being queer.

My main problem is being insecure because of dysphoria combined with the transphobia I've received, pushing me to toxic competitive behaviour that runs the risk of alienating my friends. However, compared to the attitudes I've faced and still face in real life, affirmation from queer spaces about how men don't need to be one way feel detached from reality. How can I not be insecure when I've been bullied for my whole life and none of that would've happened if my body wasn't female? If I said that doesn't matter wouldn't it be cope?

Tl;dr what do when toxically masculine as a trans man in very transphobic irl corcumstances? I would especially appreciate examples of masculine-presenting men who didn't engage in masculinity as a competition. If post is too big wall of text or just too many personal details tell me and I'll trim.

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