Lemmylefty

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[–] [email protected] 59 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

What do you like to play?

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago

-gasp-

I’ve found my community!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

While I definitely agree that routine checkups like that should be happening (and especially for people who just got their licenses or are 60+) at least for a car dominant culture like the US I can see that being a huge burden both on safety organizations/DMVs and on the drivers themselves. :/

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

People lived here fully and loved dearly. It’s sweet.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

I’m kind of terrible with tofu and thick sauces; even with extra firm tofu that I’ve pressed and frozen/unfrozen, I manage to make it crumble about 90% of the time, so this is always wizardry to me.

Granted, I don’t deep fry it because it’s such a huge pain to deep fry so that’s probably my problem…

Do you think that seitan would hold up well with this? I’d think it’d mimic chicken well, while the tofu is moreso the paneer replacement.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I think it was a sous vide thing.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It is definitely tough to shed that sense. Growing up knowing I was “weird” and therefore bad (no, it was just undiagnosed autism, but I was an adult before I knew that and that element of myself had long since been solidified) meant that if I wanted people to like me then I had to give more than they did in order to just break even, which is exhausting and unfair, especially since I have a tendency to read neutral expressions as negative ones.

One thing that has helped me is the realization that that happy feeling I get when someone came to me for help and I helped them? Goes both ways for good people. And it sucks for them, too, if you’re suffering and they could help but you were afraid to ask. Having standards is both a defense of yourself and a means of determining which people should stay prominent in your life.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Did anyone check if the “Contact Us” page included the login details beneath each person listed?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There are millions of people that would move on AOCs command.

I’m sorry what? Agreeing with her, voting for her, campaigning for her: none of that is anything like the coordinated, multi-pronged and likely months long harassment campaign you’re talking about.

[–] [email protected] 47 points 1 year ago (1 children)

“When I was young, I admired clever people. Now that I am old, I admire kind people.”

“The brutally honest care more about the brutality than the honesty.”

“Reasonable people can disagree reasonably.”

I can’t live up to those ideals but it would be cruel to myself and others to stop trying to.

 

I’ve become aware, as I get older, how my initial emotional reaction to conflict isn’t always fair and is usually pointed backward, defensive and angry. I also know that I do better if I have time alone to process how I’m feeling, and often by the time I’m done things have moved on.

What I’ve been working on is to stop using excuses - the moment has passed, I’d just be dredging up the same argument, I’ve had this conversation in my head a bunch but they never turn out exactly right - and just go back to the people involved and tell them how I feel because they deserve that effort. There have been disagreements I’ve had where I wasn’t in the wrong but the other party did something I can admire and appreciate, and it doesn’t hurt me any to say that.

And it never ends with what I imagine is “argument perfection”: a point by point discussion of intent and action and history. Which is silly because life is messy but it gets better and I and others grow more patient and willing to move forward if I’m not always bracing for a blow.

That’s…probably a bit confusing, but it’s been something I’ve been mulling over, so…what personality traits of yours are you working on?

 

Question inspired by a Charley horse that hit in the middle of the night.

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