colonelp4nic

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I'm not autistic, just ADHD, so please stop me if I'm invading a space where my commentary isn't welcome.

You didn't recognize that the girl in question was setting boundaries, which isn't your fault, but I'll get back to that in a minute. From her perspective, she made it clear that she wasn't interested in you romantically, but she felt like subsequent actions still had romantic intent, like spending a lot of time near her and chatting. The way she was communicating with you wasn't working, so she tried asking a friend to find an alternative resolution. I don't want to get into the details of defining what "creepy" might mean to different people, but what's important is that she felt unheard and wasn't able to influence her environment to meet her needs. And that sucks for anyone.

Autism makes it hard to understand subtler forms of boundary setting, but you can totally learn how! I had a poor time understanding and respecting boundaries because throughout my whole childhood, my boundaries were never respected, nor were anyone's boundaries in my childhood environment, so I never learned. And the things I implicitly learned where downright harmful. I may be projecting a bit, but I suspect you have a difficult time both setting and respecting boundaries because you haven't been taught. Personally, I loved the book (or audiobook) Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Tawwab. It walks through a bunch of conversation examples regarding setting boundaries, which my autistic brother said is super helpful.

https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Can you clarify what you mean by that? It sounds strangely gatekeepy to me, but maybe I'm misunderstanding

[–] [email protected] -1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Where is your VPS located, and which Wire Guard server are you connecting to?

[–] [email protected] 24 points 3 weeks ago

Kindness is also hard (and takes practice). I believe in both of our abilities to keep improving!

[–] [email protected] 60 points 1 month ago (2 children)

In an environment where old men cling to every drop of power and control they can get, I'm super proud of Biden for putting his ego aside and doing what's best for the country he loves

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

"Four billion dollars for four miles that doesn't add that much to ridership, what is that about," reads to me like an absolutely insane take, so I'm wondering if I'm missing something. Does this person not understand how much more growth West Seattle could see if it's more connected with the other population centers? Were they also upset with all of the money spent on the bridge?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

In your HAProxy config (like in this example), it's checked from top to bottom. So your top-most frontend case should be the one that checks for the special keyword case. Then, if it doesn't match the keyword, HAProxy will continue going down the list until it finds a frontend that does match. So your second frontend should match for everything, because if it doesn't find a match, HAProxy shows an error

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

They'd better add one of those kill markers to that Bradley

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Cool, I think that first link will work for you. Then you can just 'redirect' for the no-keyword case: https://www.haproxy.com/documentation/haproxy-configuration-tutorials/http-redirects/

Remember, SSL/HTTPS does encrypt the URL path, so if the final website requires HTTPS, your proxy will need to have its certificate trusted by your clients

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (5 children)

Maybe have two cases:
For the (matched keyword) case, something like this: https://serverfault.com/questions/729232/reg-exp-for-url-in-haproxy

For the (random routing) case, something like: https://www.haproxy.com/blog/haproxy-configuration-basics-load-balance-your-servers

I am a little confused on your question, though. It sounds like you maybe want 3 cases? Can you try wording it differently?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Generally unique request IDs have to be generated by the client that sends the request. If the client doesn't generate an ID, you're probably out of luck. That said, do you have information about the client you're expecting to call your Squid cache? One unofficial, but common place for clients to put a request ID is in the header "X-Request-ID"

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 months ago (1 children)

If you feel this enough to come to the comments, there's a good chance you have undiagnosed ADHD (because you cope well enough, but "aren't living up to your potential"). An aspect of ADHD is rejection sensitivity dysphoria, which also applies to "failures" like in this meme. Getting medicated at age 29 has been life changing for me

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